I'm a long time lurker, infrequent poster, but have namechanged for this.
Ok this might be long so please bear with me...
I am a SAHM with one Dd of 13mnths, been with my husband for nearly 5 years, married for 3. When I fell pregnant with Dd I was in my first year of university (she was a surprise!) but decided to withdraw as it wasn't the right course for me.
Fast-forward a few months and we had to move to the other side of the country for Dh's work, Dd was born, then 6 months later moved back again.
So thats the background, here's my problem...
I feel trapped, as if I'm living in my own little bubble and will never be able to get out of it. I've never had a proper full time job, and feel like I've missed out on the chance to find out who I am, who I want to be, what interests me, to use my brain a bit, you know? I'm relatively intelligent, got AAB in A levels but I feel like I'm not doing anything with it.
Just recently I feel like i cant even have a conversation with people because I have nothing to talk about.. no work, no hobbies, no real friends here... I always end up talking about my daughter and my driving lessons
All this is not helped by the fact I have an identical twin sister who, when we finished our A Levels, decided she didnt want to go to uni and would instead stay at home while her fiance went out to work, then they would have kids quite early. What actually happened in the end was she got a job, learnt to drive, split up with her fiance, met someone else on the internet, moved to scotland and guess what?? She is now at university!! And here I am doing with a baby, no degree, no driving license (but working on it) and feeling like I'm slowly losing all direction and meaning in my life.. I love Dd to bits, but I was only 19, nearly 20 when she was born. Ideally we would have waited about 5/6 years..
But what the hell do I do to sort myself out?? Do I get a job? I could work part time and have MIL look after Dd which would help our finances, and help me get a bit of an identity back.. or i could go back to uni, a different course etc, and try to build a career for myself? However I dont think we can feasibly afford that right now.
I know no-one will be able to wave a magic wand and sort it all out for me.. but any suggestions would be gratefully received
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Feeling like I don't know who I am, what I want, where I'm going.. Long and Rambling...
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Mumooms · 23/10/2007 16:05
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