I need help finding a private detective/investigator

[IKnowIKnowDontBollockMe]

This is obviously a name change!
Basically, I really need to know whether OH is being a slapper on lads nights out.

I'd like to know if he goes to lap dancing clubs, well I know he does but he denies it, and I'd like to know if he actually 'gets off with' other women.

I'd like to hire a private detective for one of these nights, but have no idea where to look or what to look for, or how much it would cost etc etc. I'd be so grateful for any practical help on that front

Don't bother telling me how shit my relationship must be and how it's not the right way of doing things because I know that already

[ruty]

Yellow Pages? Internet? No idea how you check they are kosher though.

[HappyDaddy]

I don't have any advice. All I would say is if you are this suspicious and feel you can't trust him at all...why waste money on confirming your suspicions? Use the money on your divorce.

Sorry if that's not very helpful.

[claricebeansmum]

Used one once.
Did the job asked to do.
Was very expensive.
Can't remember details now....if I do will post again

[Carmenere]

So what will you do if he is? Will you be able to build your relationship up again? Would you trust him again?

Dp got a PI to prove that his ex was living with her dp (she was denying it for the divorce, even though his bank account was registered there) he was bloody expensive.

[CountessDracula]

Could you pay a friend?
much cheaper prob

[CountessDracula]

or a mumsnetter

[IKnowIKnowDontBollockMe]

he hey, that's an idea? Anyone fancy following my OH around the west end and probably to spearmint rhino etc etc?

[HappyDaddy]

Will you pay for my drinks?

[claricebeansmum]

You wont be drinking - you will be working!

[HappyDaddy]

If I don't have a drink, I'll raise suspicion!

[bananaknickers]

he will be asking for her to pay for a lap dance next

[HappyDaddy]

No, I'll be at the bar doing "surveillance".

[newgirl]

there was an article in times about a honey trap company - didnt keep the details though - internet im sure would come up with all sorts of options - if happydaddy already booked

[bananaknickers]

Are you going to wear a flasher mac and sunglasses or go casual ?

[Tortington]

WHY OH WHY OH WHY would you bother?

if you dont trust him and he is being a twat

ask him to go to relate

and if not
just leave him

PI ? wouldnt waste my money

[bananaknickers]

There was someone on this morning a few months ago talking about honey traps.

Why do you think he is doing the deed Iknow?

[HappyDaddy]

custy, my point exactly.

[barnstaple]

Usually adverts in the back Private Eye! Most of them have been advertising there for years so prob reputable. Personally, I'd go with HD and Custonsteien. Save the dosh for the divorce.

[IKnowIKnowDontBollockMe]

But with my investment will come information which may be used in a positive way in marriage guidance counselling. we've tried counselling before but he's able to completely remove himself from the person that goes to these places and continue to lie. if I have proof, it may save us, it may not.
anyway i told you not to tell me relationship crap etc etc.

[HappyDaddy]

Stop wasting time here, fuck off and find what you need. Never heard of google? Yellow pages?

Don't post on here and not expect us to try to help, in a constructive way.

[IKnowIKnowDontBollockMe]

what a lovely post, cheers for that. what a dick

[IKnowIKnowDontBollockMe]

Would you have responded differently if post had a smiley at the end, which I had actually intended!:

But with my investment will come information which may be used in a positive way in marriage guidance counselling. we've tried counselling before but he's able to completely remove himself from the person that goes to these places and continue to lie. if I have proof, it may save us, it may not.
anyway i told you not to tell me relationship crap etc etc.

[HappyDaddy]

Yes, I would.

[IKnowIKnowDontBollockMe]

oh fuck off

[HappyDaddy]

If he's a liar, he can still deny it even if the evidence is right there. He'll just say "ok, i know i've done wrong, i promise i'll never do it again ever but you MUST trust me". Then he'll go straight out again, knowing you wont follow him this time.