I am an idiot...when will I grow up?

[Rocklover]

Straight to the point. I have been on 3 dates with this guy and yesterday, stupidly I slept with him...and I feel terrible as even more stupidly we didn't use protection, and although I am on the pill obv I am now worried about STDs...but that's a different story.

I know he won't want anymore to do with me, he has already started ignoring me online etc. I have never done anything like that before (he was only the 3rd person I have ever slept with) and I feel so bad that I let him use me! The thing is, he is no great loss as hadn't got any major feelings for him, BUT this latest disaster has made me so despondent about ever meeting anyone else. I am 33, have lost most of my friends through moving around alot with husband and the only way I can meet people is through the internet, but this has really put me off.

As an aside, my life is not great atm, living with my parents (with my DD), got fired last month, so jobhunting. Going through a divorce (hubby is being an arse and currently does not pay maintenance) and I am fed up with not having friends. Reading that backI sound so self pitying, I am not, just don't know how to get myself out of this hole!!

Don't know what I want from this post really, maybe to know that I am not the only one who has made a mess of my life !

[fingerwoman]

rocklover, get yourself to a clinic and get checked for STD's/
then don't waste any more time thinking about him.

DO, however, get yourself involved in some local kids things with dd. how old is she? can you join some mother and toddler groups and get to know some people and make new friends?
If dd is older then perhaps finding something she enjoys will enable you to meet other mums in your area

[Rocklover]

She will be 3 in Jan, trouble with Mums and Tots stuff is that until last month I was working (and hopefully will be again soon) so I could never find one that fitted in with me. Also, I haven't passed my driving test yet (is booked for Nov), I am slightly limited where I can go.

I did used to go to some toddler groups, but the women there were very cliquey and most of them were childminders (didn't have their own kids with them), so I never really got to make friends. Is there any other kind of group I could try?

[fingerwoman]

hmm how about something like swimming lessons on a saturday morning?
that way it doesn't interfere with work, dd gets plenty of exercise and you can meet some people (hopefully)
or a variation on it- any kind of activity/music

oh and there is always the meet-up section on here. what area are you in?

[Rocklover]

I am in Oxfordshire. I have tried the meet up section and have had no joy, so I guess there are not many people from this area on here.