Heres the background my brother is 36 still lives at home with my mum, pays little rent has my mum cook all his meals, do all his ironing etc everything you would do for a 10 year old child.My dad drives to my mums house and takes my brother to work every day despite the fact he could catch the bus.
I on the other hand learnt to drive at 17, left home at 23, had a child go married and am expecting baby number 2. My husband works extremely hard and is in the forces but is desperate to leave as it it causing problems in our marriage and affecting our ds.The worry is we live in MQ's and cant afford a house or to rent priviately as his pay is gonna drop.My hubby has already put his notice in so we could technically be homeless in a years time.
Now my mum is getting married (big shock) and is giving up her 3 bed council house which would be perfect for us.She has even said once she would give it to us if it werent for my brother.So now my brother, dad (they stick together) etc are panicking about where he is gonna live but my dad has said he will prob get a excahnge for a smaller place and so the council wont kick him out so he basically does nothing and lands on his feet.
I just feel so resentful that our situations are so similar in that we that we both face eviction except i have kids and responsibilities and he is a young lazy but working man and yet no-one has even thought of me.It was my home too and i still have my bedroom and stuff there.
My brother was on the dole for 10 years and the fact he has got a job is a big achievement apparently according to my dad. I did 3 years at uni but gave up my career to support my hubby and i get no well dones. It gets me that if i stayed at home did nothing and had people rally around me i may actually get some help. I said years ago we would buy the house as my mum would get it at a reduced rate but couldnt because of my brother.
Having that house would mean my hubby could leave the navy without any worry and me and my children would have security and would be settled.Not to mention it would save our marriage and make the kids alot happier that theyve got their daddy home.I feel im gonna fall out with my family over this would you be the same?
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why does my brother get all the help just because hes lazy and i have to get on with it......
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rosebud1980 · 12/09/2007 09:59
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