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Long distance relationship while pregnant...HELP

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hannahmary · 10/08/2007 00:03

I don't know what to do...I wasn't in a long distance relationship until today when I flew back to the UK and my BF is in Colombia. I just keep crying and want him to be here or me to be there and neither is possible. Even worse is that I am in my old house with my ex husband and his girlfriend and they don't know i'm pregnant and I feel like I'm in a soap opera or something and at any moment will be kidnapped by aliens or find out that my BF is really my long lost twin brother!!!
I think I just need someone to tell me that I can do this and that I will feel better in the morning when I can tell a friend and be excited about being pregnant instead of scared and tired and jetlagged. Please

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liliac · 10/08/2007 00:47

You are jetlagged, emotional, living in a very unusual situation and missing your man, no wonder you are feeling so down.
Why don't you spend the weekend thinking of ways to make yourself feel better, going back to Coloumbia is probably not an option as you are doing your BA, but surely you can try and sort out alternative living arrangements, as well as a midwife and SKYPE so that you can keep in contact with your man. You can do this, others have in the past and you are a very strong lady, who just happens to be feeling low due to jet lag and the change in your life.

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MrsTittleMouse · 10/08/2007 20:43

We were long-distance (transatlantic) for a while during my pregnancy. It was hard, but we coped. You have email access right? I sent him loads of photos of me week-by-week as the bump grew, and we wrote loads of short chatty little emails about silly things that had happened to us.
Have to agree with lilac that you're still coping with the jetlag, tiring long flight and emotional goodbyes at the moment. I was just holding things together on my journey when a complete arse (who had boarded late) pushed my things around in the overhead bin and dropped my computer on my head. Then I really lost it and couldn't get it back for quite a while! Things will feel better, promise. When will you see him again? Can you live with family instead for a while?

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hannahmary · 13/08/2007 13:10

THANK YOU!
I like the idea about loads of chatty emails, I have been recounting the plane journey and the first days back and have the built in camera in my mac that helps when taking instasnaps of "me writing you this email" but he doesn't always have internet access because he's up in the Andes and i was worried that i'm going to get reliant on whether he has answered me or not...but feeling loads better than I was and the sun is shining and has been all weekend so i should be getting everything on my to do list sorted!
I will be going to see my dad up north in a week, he doesn't know yet as he has been in Azerbaijan for work and our phone calls were less than coherent so i'm nervous/excited about that...don't know what his reaction will be like but all my friends have been super excited and happy which has also made things easier.
I def know the about to fall apart in the plane feeling...I was desperately trying not to cry and this guy opened the overhead locker and pulling a bag around to make room for his, he knocked my camera onto the floor...I almost killed him ...
Am also staying with friends while getting sorted as couldn't take the crazy house situation any more!

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