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I've just had an email saying...

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MascaraOHara · 08/08/2007 15:59

that they know something about my xp but they're not sure I'm going to want to know..

I've told them I want to know and am now sat here with stomach in knots waiting for a response. Think it was very cruel of them.

I expect that the news will be that he has got back with his ex and I know we've split but it's still gonna hurt like I don't know what when I get the confirmation. We only split mid July and I'm now wondering if there was something going on.. it was only a few weeks ago he was telling me I was the only person he'd ever loved etc

feel sick.

and pissed off with person who emailed me the way they did and for not replying. Will also mean friends know and nobody has told me...

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charliecat · 08/08/2007 16:00

Bastards, can you ring them and ask?

totaleclipse · 08/08/2007 16:00

Do you know who sent the email?

Dropdeadfred · 08/08/2007 16:01

I would have been upset too. \do you know this perosn well enough to ring them and ask what the info is?

Alternatively - take a deep reath and decide that if you two have split up then what does it matter anymore?

Dior · 08/08/2007 16:02

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MascaraOHara · 08/08/2007 16:06

he's not seeing his ex he's seeing another girl from the pub... can't help wondering if they were at it already...

I might not want to be with him but still... IYKWIM

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Carmenere · 08/08/2007 16:07

Oh MOH, I'm sorry, that is crap, email is a horrible way to find out news like that(whatever it is).
But the cliches are true and time does heal and you know this is for the best. Still I'm sorry you are hurting x

Dior · 08/08/2007 16:08

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Carmenere · 08/08/2007 16:08

Yes the prick should be licking his wounds.

charliecat · 08/08/2007 16:08

Youve split up with him because you two are no good together?
Breath deep and it will be ok.
I too am dreading this moment, even though its me whos sniffing about for some fresh meat, and not him (as far as ai know but I dont ask).
Whatever pissed you off about him, will not have changed.
He will be the same with her.

MascaraOHara · 08/08/2007 16:10

I know it would never have worked and that it was my decision but for all his grovelling and he's done this.. speaks volumes about how little he thought of me - just brings it home I think.

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WigWamBam · 08/08/2007 16:10

What a horrible thing to do. Of course you're going to want to know once you've received an email like that.

Sorry that you're hurting. I hope you get a reply to the email soon - even if it hurts, at least you won't be sitting festering about it once you know.

Dior · 08/08/2007 16:15

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Dropdeadfred · 08/08/2007 16:34

If anything it shows that he valued your relationship, because he needs someone to fill your space....

lazyemma · 08/08/2007 16:40

If I were you I would ditch the "friend" who told you this, the way they did - what an arsehole. Sorry about your ex, always stings when you hear they've got together with someone else, especially after such a little while.

annieatno4 · 08/08/2007 16:51

Agreed - what a awful thing to do!

MascaraOHara · 08/08/2007 16:52

to be fair, my friend who told me is just a lad who drinks in the same pub as him.

I'm trying not to care. I have a couple of guys sniffing round so will just not feel guilty if I chose to go on a date.

It's my birthday this week too

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Dior · 09/08/2007 08:21

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FoghornLeghorn · 09/08/2007 08:42

MOH - I had no idea you'd split.
Hope you are bearing up OK.

What a horrible email to receive

MascaraOHara · 09/08/2007 09:39

Just that several of my friends already knew and had decided not to tell me.

I know who she is and she's a right old toad to look at but have spoke to her a few times in the past and she seems like a really nice girl so fair play to them I guess.

I woke up in a really good mood today.

How's things with you Dior?

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Pages · 09/08/2007 12:36

I agree with Dior, it just means he can't be alone. I split up with my P of nearly 5 years and he got together with my best friend. I hadn't even moved out. It hurt like hell for a long time (even though I too made the decision to leave, especially when she got pg by him a few months later (her master plan all along). It hurts to be replaced that quickly and I think it says more about him then you.

Btw she is now a single parent and bitter as hell, he is with someone else and has a baby with her. As for me? On my own for several years then met DH and am confident it's for keeps.

You split with him for a reason, just hold onto that.

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zippitippitoes · 09/08/2007 12:51

it could just be a safety mechanism..dp has dumped me and I'm looking for someone else not to replace him but just to reassure myself that that's not it for ever for me and relationships and as a protection for when he gets himself my replacement..I want to have given it a whirl first so that I will feel less gutted when he does have a new girlfriend..

but yes he has destroyed me if I let him..he is the love of my life but I have to get over it

MascaraOHara · 09/08/2007 13:04

OMG Zippi, I didn't know that.. sorry to hear it.

So anyway am now toying with going on a date tomorrow night for my birthday with bloke I've fancied for ages but never had a clue he was interested until he heard that my and xp were over.

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Carmenere · 09/08/2007 13:05

Now that is fate MOH. Go for it and enjoy it

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