problems with sex! I can't feel anything

[anyone]

I wonder if anyone can help or offer any advice.

I've been with my dp for a few months now and he is fab is great with dc (he's not the dad)

BUT sex is crap the foreplay is fine, it's just penetration, it isn't enjoyable at all it feels as if he isn' inside me. I can't feel anything.

his penis doesn' look particulary small, its not much smaller than my ex and I could feel him inside me.

it just feels like monotonous unfeeling crap. and it makes me really upset. I love sex usually, we've tried doggy as it my fave position but nothing.

I don't know what to do.

is it possible to carry on without penetration?

is there anything I can do to improve it

[MyTwopenceworth]

pelvic floor?

[anyone]

will that actually work? I mean I don't feel that I'm looser since my ex which was only a month before I got with new dp.

can it makes thing 'tighter' down there?

[MyTwopenceworth]

yup. it can. have to do them religiously though.

[MyTwopenceworth]

oh, or there's an op.

ouch.

ouchie bloody ouch.

but it's an option!

[anyone]

how about those pelvic floor exercisers? do they work as well?

I have hought about the op, but I do want more children so not an option right now.

oh plus I don't have the money

[MyTwopenceworth]

those cones? no personal experience, but i have heard they can help.

do you think that is the problem? questions you could ask yourself would be how do you feel about your bloke. do you fancy him?

Now, i must say that i am the last person that can give sex advice, since i don't have any myself, but i bet someone will come along and be able to advise you if you think it might be a libido/attraction thing, rather than a pelvic floor thing!

[souvenir]

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[anyone]

with my dp its more of a soulmate thing then fancying pants off him, but I do want to have sex and he does make me cum through oral and with his hands.

it just cant feel him feels lost in there lol!

he knows sex is crap he thinks it his fault, he isnt very confident with positions etc..

[imaginaryfriend]

Is he fully erect? I think sometimes when they're a bit 'soft' it can be harder to feel them?

Do you feel any different internally to yourself if you have a feel around?

(hope I'm not being too graphic )

[frapachino]

He's not called Mark Bennett is he

[anyone]

yes a few times I have noticied he feels a bit soft, I think it is down to his lack of confidence.


but last night he said he stayed erect but I still did'nt feel anything.

I'm looser since having dd, but nothing changed since last bf which was only 8 months ago.

[anyone]

who's mark bennett? an ex?

[pirategirl]

he is nervous, you are worried, you dont facny him much, and he's a bit soft. You wuold know if he had a stonking hard hard on.

If his technique isnt great, thats going to make it less 'feelable' and enjoyable. My guess is that you both feel in some ways he has soemthing to live up too.

[anyone]

I think you've hi the nail on the head piraregirl, so what can I do about it?

aswell as pelvic floor, would toys work do u think?