I don't have kids but I came on this site specifically for womens point of view and i knew some of you will be in similar situation to her.
I'm 27 and as I said I have no kids, I live with my parents simply because I cannot afford to move out yet. My girlfriend has two kids and lives in a council house, she doesnt understand why I still live with my parents but forgets I would not be given a house as easily as she was.
Anyway I visit her on weekends, it costs me a fortune to do this as I have to come on train as my car is off the road, I had an old car which was my hobby more than my car but again she didn't understand this, thought it was stupid to own a car that "broke" so much so I ended up getting rid of it to please her. Now she gets pissed off because I go down on train so cannot take her out due to having no car, she tells me I should buy a "normal" car but I begrudge being told what to buy, I don't like "Normal" cars and would rather save up and buy something I like.
She also moans because I "never have any money", she wants me to take her out but after paying train fares I simply cannot afford to but I do try, every now and again I will take money specifically to take her out but she begrudges every little thing I buy myself. If I step a foot wrong in her house like leave clothes on the floor she will remind me that she's not my mother yet nags at me and tells me what to spend my money on as if she IS my mother.
When I am there we don't exactly have a ball, she lets her kids climb on me, they're constantly screaming and screeching, singing and shouting and she knows it does my head in but she wont tell them to stop it, she just says "thats kids" but no other kid I know acts like that. Her eldest is 7 and he is constantly trying to hug me which again gets on my nerves but she wont tell him off, she gets all defensive if ever I say anything to him or about him.
We no longer have sex, she always makes excuses like she's tired, has headache, she's constantly "That time of the month", she doesnt even kiss me. Constantly says that Im childish and laughs at me, has broken up with me twice yet won't say no when I offer to buy her anything or take her out.
So is she using me for company like I suspect she is? I don't want to finish and I know we would be ok but she wont discuss moving in together yet moans that we're "stuck" in limbo with no progression on our relationship. I feel I can't do right for wrong.
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I think my girlfriend is taking the mick
GTI · 06/08/2007 12:27
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