Miserable DP

[redlego]

I am sick of my DP's misserable attitude, he's constantly snapping, whinging and having at attitude yet when I ask him what's wrong he says "nothing, why?".

For instance we were getting ready to go out this morning, he asked me if I had the car keys and I told him that I'd given them to him last night, he said I hadn't and so I reminded him of what he was saying about the keyring after I had passed them to him last night, he remembered and then just snapped "oh well, I can't find the keys then" but in a really snappy way.

We went to a fair today and I asked if the kids we saw on the field were playing rugby or american football as they had helmets and padded shirts on, he said they were not wearing padding so it must be rugby, I pointed out that they were wearing padding (not in a nasty way, just normal tone) and he snapped "THEY'RE NOT WEARING PADDING!!" but again snappy.

I know these all sound petty but its all the time, I mentioned that a text I sent to my friend earlier hadn't reached her and he just shrugged and said "oh well" but in a really off way.

He's really snappy and moangy with the kids too, a few days ago we were driving home from london and my son (who wants to be a rockstar) started singing a chemical romance song so DP turned the radio right up to drown him out. If ever they ask him anything he snaps, he's constantly rolling his eyes, tutting and shaking his head everytime they so much as breathe out of place...

Yet I know full well that when I ask him later what's been up with him he'll just say "Nothing, why?" and laugh as if nothing has happened. A few days later he will admit to being a twat all weekend and will aplogise but will say he doesn't know why he was being like it, he does it everytime he's with us. (the kids are not his).

Are some people just miseable twats through nature?

[DrNortherner]

It wears you down doesn't it? My dh is prone to bouts of miserable twatness, and I have to give him a good kick up the arse to make him see sense.

Think men get worse as they get older.

[LyraBelacqua]

My DP's like this sometimes, but not all the time, thankfully. When he's like this I just try to ignore him till he snaps out of it.
Can you try having a serious chat with him to let him know how much it bothers you? Maybe he'd make more of an effort to snap out of it. It must be awful watching him do it to the children.

[CarGirl]

How long have you been with him etc????? Sk him to shape up or ship out??? Although he could be depresses as I get like that and I know it's not nice for anyone else!

[stillcryinginside]

Some people are just miserable but we tend to pick up on this straightaway and leave well alone. He can't have always been this way or you surely wouldn't have started a relationship with him.

You dont mention how long you've been together, how long hes been like this, his age etc. He could be depressed, having a midlife crisis, problems at work etc anything could be bothering him.

It's obviously difficult for you because when he's being this way and you ask whats wrong he dismisses it, if he wont actually admit at the time theres a problem you can't deal with it together.

You say "he does it everytime he's with us" from that I assume you don't live together as a family ? could there be another woman ?

has there been any major changes in his life from when this seems to have started, new house, job, boss etc, loss of a friend/family member. You need to think when this started and if you can find anything that may have sparked it off.

How is your relationship on the whole ? do you think he possibly feels the relationship as runs it's course but he doesn't no how to end it and thinks if he pi$$e$ you off enough you'll do it for him ?

I hope you can sort this out for you and your kids xx

[stillcryinginside]

forgot to add; he doesn't take drugs of any kind does he ?

[divastrop]

why do you stay with him ?

i assume he's very good looking and has a huge donger ?in which case you may be better off just being f**k buddies and not having a miserable twat influencing your children?

dont get me wrong,everyone is miserable and snappy at times,thats just part of being human(i hope)but why would you want to stay with somebody whos like that all the time?