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**************Can 9;t get a word in*****************

(84 Posts)
MhamaiJane Tue 24-Jul-07 18:47:30

I was going to namechange for this but ah what the hell!
Ok so here it goes, I met a lovely French man six weeks ago. He is courteous, considerate, kind, sexy, funny etc. You may be asking what the problem is, well.............he never shuts up! Sorry that's a bit blunt but it is basically true.

I'm myself blessed in the gift of the gab dept but feel if I don't "pardon the pun" say something <if I get a chance> that this relationship won't go anywhere, unless
I zone out and keep nodding and umming in the right places, which I'm already starting to do. Can anyone advise me on how I can sensitively approach this with him?

TIA

MhamaiJane Tue 24-Jul-07 19:23:12

Anyone?

TnOgu Tue 24-Jul-07 19:27:19

Do the thing with the finger across the neck you know like you will slit his throat if he doesn't shut up.

Tis a universible sign, he will get the idea

MhamaiJane Tue 24-Jul-07 19:32:37

Hey T where ya been girl?
Oh God seriously though, he is a lovely man but when it gets to the stage when you think someone is talking at you or would just continue whether you were there or not. I really do just nod and um because even when I do manage to get in it feels like I've had to pounce into the conversation and that can't be right can it?

TnOgu Tue 24-Jul-07 19:37:00

Tis a pity.

He sounds like my mother, with regard the non-stop gabbing.

MhamaiJane Tue 24-Jul-07 19:40:10

I have to say something diplomatic soon otherwise I think I'll probably just get a cut out of me and leave him to talk to it.

TnOgu Tue 24-Jul-07 19:43:29

Try explaining that conversations only work if people take turns

MhamaiJane Tue 24-Jul-07 19:45:48

It's like i'll say something that will spark his interest and wahey!!!! Off he goes...................and goes...............and goes..........and goes
Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!

GibbonInARibbon Tue 24-Jul-07 19:46:15

start to look bored, he'll get the hint

the best way is to start pickingimaginary fluff off your clothes...really gets the point accross

lol at 'Do the thing with the finger across the neck you know like you will slit his throat if he doesn't shut up.'

TnOgu Tue 24-Jul-07 19:48:48

I think it is probably doomed.

You were in lust - the honeymoon period is over cut your losses and find yourself a fella who dotes on you and not himself.

MhamaiJane Tue 24-Jul-07 19:49:08

I've actually nearly fallen asleep, so the looking bored has probably been covered at this stage. Maybe it is a lost cause, I mean if this is the way he is, is it possible for him to change at 44?

TnOgu Tue 24-Jul-07 19:49:27

< I feel assertive this evening >

GibbonInARibbon Tue 24-Jul-07 19:50:31

blimey, if he can still blabber on when you are almost asleep he must be a hardcore 'all about me'

hmmmmmm doesn't sound like he'll change now

RubySlippers Tue 24-Jul-07 19:50:54

it might be nerves
some people talk a lot when they are nervous

GibbonInARibbon Tue 24-Jul-07 19:51:01

I noticed TnOgu

[impressed]

MhamaiJane Tue 24-Jul-07 19:51:06

Ah feck, how do you tell someone to ease up with the word flow without offending?

GibbonInARibbon Tue 24-Jul-07 19:51:33

surely not nerves after six weeks?

RubySlippers Tue 24-Jul-07 19:51:51

just kiss him if he won't shut up

GibbonInARibbon Tue 24-Jul-07 19:52:18

you could make a joke like...

Fuck me you go on a bit don't you

RubySlippers Tue 24-Jul-07 19:52:27

well, you are still in the lurve haze at 6 weeks
you want it to go well and all that

TnOgu Tue 24-Jul-07 19:53:17

Pretend to fall asleep

GibbonInARibbon Tue 24-Jul-07 19:53:24

true....

Desiderata Tue 24-Jul-07 19:53:55

I agree with TnOgu. People can't change their characters. If that's the way he is, and it's pissing you off, then you have to make some tough decisions regarding your future together.

<Does he talk all the way through sex as well?>

MhamaiJane Tue 24-Jul-07 19:53:59

I don't think I've helped by doing the hanging onto his evey word routine either though. The closest we have come to the truth is my saying, "well we will never be lost for words"

RubySlippers Tue 24-Jul-07 19:54:58

but at 6 weeks you do think what the other person is saying is utterly fascinating even if it isn't!
6 weeks is too early to can it because he talks too much IMVHO

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