just need to get this off my chest..

[makkapakkastrumpet]

Im just annoyed with dh atm. Probably nothing major BUT Im at the stage where I wonder if life will ever return to how it was when we met..over 11 years ago.?

We have 2 adorable kids (babies) so yes life is hectic BUT i just feel that dh doesn't take into account how my life actually is and tbh maybe he doesn't really know me anymore.

Yeah yeah he's a great father to the lo's but it seems thats where things stop. To him being a great father is all thats required BUT to me I need more than just playing the the lo's when he's home or feeding them or changing nappies iykwim.I need to feel loved,wanted and like he's interested in ME.

Suppose I feel taken for granted and not appreciated. I just feel that dh see's to himself, goes to work, comes home,creates mess,see's to the lo's (although its not without the: Oh I did this and I did that or creating mess due to seeing to the lo's that I then have to tidy up..) Its as though I should put up and shut up with things for the sake of dh helping when he does.
I know dh has spent a day in work BUT I get so annoyed that even hours after he's home and I am talking to him he's not listening. Even news on the lo's im updating him with. Basically my daily conversation revolves around cbeebies and dd.I get more sense from her.

Sorry Im rambleing now.

Also sex is a big thing with us. We never really were a big sex drive couple and tbh although I enjoy it, I could honestly take it or leave it. I have little time and once the lo's are in bed I would rather catch up on stuff I need to do or watch tv etc. Basically relax. DH has days where he says "Oh I don't give a shit about sex" and is quite negative about it..then there are often days when he mentions it 24/7 and I honestly do get pissed off. I feel as though im being pushed into it.
DH makes a joke of it and says he wants more but its as though he's contradicting himself and he even makes me feel bad, as though im stopping him having it more often.Makes me feel guilty.

I just think we have different sex drives as we always have and having 2 lo's has added to it.He wants it to be spontanious..? Like how spontanious can you be with kids.?!

I know, noone can probably help but wanted to sound off a little.

[ginnedupmummy]

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[spoogs]

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[makkapakkastrumpet]

thing is, he KNOWS exactly how things are with 2 lo's as had quite a while off following ds's birth BUT it seems although he knows what its like and regulary says "how he would hate being a sahm" he doesn't always seem to do things to help out...

God, im making him seem like he does nothing..He does alot BUT suppose its the little things I would love.

You know....To hoover the stairs without me asking for a billion weeks, to offer to mop the floors..AND MEAN IT.
I also feel like he snaps at me loads as instead of being the man who dotes on me atm he seems to moan at anything I do...

AND i know im ot the best 100% of the time BUT i feel I treat him well and make sure I do what I can 100%,from ensuring both the lo's are well and content, the house is tidy,things that need to be in order are iykwim....

suppose I just want perfection and doubt there is much of that around....

gum,I have tried talking but get the response: "Oh I feel like that as well..." So I tell him, I didn't realise etc and that he should have said earlier and that I apologise for making him feel that way............TBH its more like tit for tat. You said it, so I will say it....

spoogs..sorry to hear about your and your dh..hope your ds is well..?
Well dh is the same, he confesses to not going out much..BUT believe me when he does go out he's the same as your dh. Doesn't want to go, but does go, then forgets to come home. Rolls in at 5am..blah de dah.

I wish I had answers..

[pollywollydoodle]

Not a solution but there's a book called How To Murder Your Husband and Other Handy Household Hints by Kathy Lette....not that i'm suggesting actual murder but my husband looks at it in a very askance way and it's given me a bit of a laugh and a think....