Very brief, H and I have split after his affair and him treating me like sh*t for the last 8 months. Previously wonderful husband and father turned into the most deceitful, manipulative person I know. Being with me and ds for the good times. Leaving night after night to be with his teenage girlfriend when it suited.
Have given him more chances than he deserved. And he has thrown it all back in my face.
The problem....
We have 4 tickets to a local music festival this weekend. Our 2 friends have dropped out last minute.
Given he has made his decision that we are over, I said we should split the tickets 2 each, take a guest each, and go separately.
He wants to go together. He really does. And the truth of the matter is that we would have a great time if we did. We love the same bands, we have a great laugh together, we would go out to our favourite club after it... But he would leave me again on Sunday. For definite.
My head - I can clearly see it is another case of him wanting the good times and not the bad.
My heart - I still love him and know I would have a better day with him than without him.
But then I would have the heartache when he leaves again on Sunday. While he would be happy that he got the day out he wanted.
Think I want some reassurance that sticking to my guns and going separately is the right thing. It is bloody hard when your head and heart want different things!
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mylittlestar · 22/06/2007 11:02
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