I am new to mumsnet - feel the need to tell my full story to people who don't know me - sorry for long post but no one in RL knows the whole story and I need to off load - comments and advice welcome - few hugs wouldn't go amiss either ..
DH and I have been married about 7 years - we have a 5 year old DD - a few years ago we started a new business stressful and started trying for another baby....things got bad we barely talked our sex life dwindled (previously very good) and I put on a lot of weight and he drank a lot...I had pretty much decided it was over and was trying to figure out how to leave (he is very possesive), when I discovered he had been having an affair for 3 months with a blond bimbo 10 years younger than me with no job (I have a good job with a good salary and had pretty much carried us while he set his business up)..cue much screaming he moved out and I filed for divorce - he then came crawling back begging for another chance saying he loved me and DD and didn't want to lose us - I put the divorce on hold and decided to give it a go - for some reason I still love him even though he makes me feel like shit and thought I owed it to our DD and our past..
Then followed the worst 6 months of my life - he lied to me and the OW and strung us both along - now I am not defending him or excusing his beahviour but this girl is real bunny boiler demented type immature and manipulative and decided she wanted him at all costs didn't care about the fact he had a family at all - some I know is true we went away for a weekend to try and reconnect - she phoned him more than 50 times in an hour and sent loads of texts varying from begging, manipulative, to foul foul sexually explicit, lies about me - even when I tried to reason with her she continued to try and manipulate me ...she will never go away...
Then end of last year things seemed to get really bad and I threatened to take it to court he dropped another bombshell - she was pregnant (the one thing I had really wanted another baby) - clearly done on purpose but also he continued to sleep with her while asking me to put my wedding ring back on....she said she would have a termination and he continued to string her on she obviously didn't of course she had what she wanted....he told her him or the baby and came back to me...
I foolishly kept trying to take him back and see if we could fix it, I do still love him god knows why and now I find myself pregnant (by him before anyone asks) and full of mixed feelings - my longed for 2nd baby finally , don't have to see her baby and think it should have been mine - but also now feel we have to give it another go...but everytime we are together we end up fighting - he won't talk about what has happended or what will happen and can't see that he has to change to regain my trust....Pregnancy hormones not helping and just feel torn have the one thing I really wanted but my DD adores her father and how can I deprive this child of its father....I don't think I can ever really forgive him but am scared at the thought of finally ending this mess ...I hate the OW (what she has done to a family and innocent children) and feel sorry for her brat...I really don't know what to do aymore this has gone on far far too long
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