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Pinkcherub · 07/05/2007 19:38

My DH left for the subject area on thurs, we have been apart for only a week at a time before now and i am not great at being on my own. Missing him and worrying about him.

He is only away for two weeks but i get stressed out if he doesn't phone.

Feel like a soft sod, we have got dd 3 and i work too and am completely independent, car etc..

How does anyone else cope.

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moondog · 07/05/2007 19:40

Oh dear.
My dh works in tough places for long periods (Iraq,Chernobyl,Georgia....)
I console myself with knowing that he loves it and jobwise is far more fulfilling than a deskjob here in North Wales.

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Nikki76 · 07/05/2007 19:41

You aren't a soft sod at all! Its hard work! I've only coped with DH being away pre baby and I found that hard enough!

I found that during the week, I would be so tired from work, I didn't mind quietly watching the TV and then at the weekend I would either visit family (is that possible for you?) or have some activities planned to make the weekend go faster....

HTH a little bit?

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Pinkcherub · 07/05/2007 19:45

Yeah going to my dads this weekend and DD has party next sunday but its at night when i am sitting that a stew.

Work helps but right now i just feel crap.

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Nikki76 · 07/05/2007 19:56

Mmm....its prob quite hard to get out in the evening with DD to look after....could you invite any friends around just for an hour or so? That would help pass the evening a bit? I also used to tick the days off the calendar with a big black marker so at the start of each day, I knew I was one step closer to him coming home.....

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moondog · 07/05/2007 19:58

Pink,tbh by the time I've got home from work,fed and sorted out kids for bed,done household chores and prepared for next working day,I have very little time to sit and stew. I always make time fro a bit of MN before bed though.

I do agree however.Nights are definitely the hardest part.

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Nikki76 · 07/05/2007 19:58

Or you can mumsnet every night - works wonders for me when I'm bored and DH is out!

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Pinkcherub · 07/05/2007 20:15

Don't often use mn anymore only very occasionally. I don't want anyone to take this the wrong way but the cheating posts kinda put me on edge and i cant help but read them, however they still make me feel like that could happen to me and so for that reason i guess i just haven't bothered so much anymore.

As for friends i suppose i am a bit of a loner as well and do find my own company better but still miss hubby when hes not here. I cant win.

I just spoke to him and now feeling bit better. Costs a mint to phone West Africa though.

I think i will feel better when i go back to work, this weekend has kinda dragged cos i am on my own DD has been good as gold but wears me out too if you know what i mean.

Still nice to chat to some of you though thanks

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moondog · 07/05/2007 21:17

Have you got Skype sorted PC?
It's a must for us.

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Paddlechick666 · 07/05/2007 21:55

not really very helpful to you but i was surprised to see your post title.

i spent 6 weeks in sierra leone in the very early nineties.

would love to know what you're dh is doing there and find out how the country is now.

hope the time passes quickly and you have a lovely homecoming when he gets back.

good luck

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Pinkcherub · 09/05/2007 18:34

Paddlechick

He is out there on an install. Engineering.

Country appears to be settled now. So he says.