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What would you do?

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talie101 · 19/04/2007 16:18

Been divorced a year now, communication very poor between the xh and I for varying reasons.

He sent me a text yesterday saying that he wished he could turn the clocks back to (and quoted the date he left us!)...(for his ex-girlfriend I might add!) Now my mind is in overdrive and he has thrown me completely! I have always secretly hoped that he would come back to us but have continued making a new life for myself and the children.

I know nothing else has been discussed and maybe I'm pre-empting something that may never happen...but I was just wondering if anyone had been in the position of their xh wanting to come back?.....did you take them back or did you tell them where to get off and get on with your new life?

I've always wanted my children to have their real father properly in their lives (yes, they do have access)....would you take him back given the chance so that would happen?....would they hate you for not giving it another go in the future if he told them he tried to get back with me?

I'm so confused....I wish he hadn't sent it!

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lou33 · 19/04/2007 16:25

i think i would wait and see why he sent the message and take it veeeeeeeerrrrry slowly

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Ifonlyhewould · 19/04/2007 16:27

Does it really matter what anyone else did or would do?

If it's permission or approval you are seeking for giving things a second go with the father of your children then, for what its worth, you have mine

I think you should go with what your heart is telling you. Do what you want to do.

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talie101 · 06/05/2007 21:12

His text got to me so I asked him what he meant by it....his reply "I have a lot of regrets"....I told him that the grass is never greener and he replied 'I know'.

It has been playing on my mind for ages why he sent me that and wondered what his motives were behind it - was he doing it just to get me to start speaking amicably to him again so he can have an easy life and get his own way more?!

We went to mediation (the day after!) for the first time and being very suspicious of him I decided to 'play along' and be friendly...he asked me if I wanted to go for a coffee afterwards and I agreed. There was no mention of the 'text'...just idol chitchat about his family etc....and we parted (on good terms so he thought!)

It has been eating away at me for days so I decided to call his bluff, confront him and text him to ask 'do you want to come back to us'....to which he NEVER replied! Why would you send a text saying you wished you could turn the clocks back but have NO intention of wanting to come back? Am I missing something here?

What the hell is he playing at?! I am so angry with him....he is taking me to mediation and one of the main issues to come out of it was 'building the trust back up'....but how can I TRUST him when he's decided to play games with me?! I feel like telling him to F off and not go to mediation again! If he hadn't played this little stunt I think we would be moving forwards but now I want to put the brakes on again!

Would you tell his partner? I am so tempted!