Opinions on this...

[waynette]

Just read a threat below which reminded me of an unsolved issue between me and my DP.

Basically it happened during terrible snow and ice, I've had my driving license for 3 years which really isnt that long and I'm still quite a nervous driver so when the weather warning specifically warned drivers not to attempt unneccessary journeys I didnt need any convincing!

Anyway DP decided he wanted to go into town, he didnt have insurance to drive my car so decided I should drive us all there...that's me, him and MY two kids. I told him no, I would be prepared to go with him on bus but I didnt want to drive. He got all huffy saying what's the point in having a car and using public transport, he would guide me on the road, we would be ok, I should get used to worse driving conditions etc etc... I kept saying I didnt feel comfortable with it, especially as it meant taking the kids, I felt it was risking their lives just to go do a bit of shopping so he went in a huge mood and shouted "oh whatever, do what you want" and stormed out. Feeling very upset about it at the time as I hadnt seen him for weeks I eventually agreed and he was all "see, I told you it wasnt that bad" but deep down I was fuming and I was angry at myself for giving in.

Now, months later he still insists he didnt do anything wrong, I'm still bitter about it. Looking for opinions...

[waynette]

thread, not threat!

[lou33]

he pressured you into doing something for his own pleasure

thats not nice, especially bringing the kids into the equation

[NotQuiteCockney]

Hmmm, let's imagine for a moment that he was absolutely right, in that the conditions were totally fine. And you were nervous and unhappy about driving in it just because of lack of confidence.

Was his behaviour reasonable, if this had all been true? Did he help you to become more confident? Did he respect your wishes? No, he behaved like an arse.

Being shouted at and argued with doesn't make a person more relaxed and comfortable. And being nervous and worried makes anyone a bad driver (never mind being angry).

So, no, I think what he did wasn't nice at all.

Does he behave like this very often?

[Blondilocks]

Not saying he's right, but the only way to get experience & practice is to go out in such weather... perhaps not shopping though... as one day you may have to go out in it, for example having to take someone to hospital.

I hate driving in the snow, but don't fine the ice too bad - don't have much choice as I need to get to work in it.

[Blondilocks]

don't find not fine.

Car parks tend to be a problem in the snow as they don't seem to get cleared & are lots of fun... NOT! Thought I'd broken my gears with the noise the car was making, then just realised it was the wheels spinning.

[LucyLemon]

He was a git - by the sounds of things anyway. It must have been a horrible and stressful experience for you
However, that was then and this is now.
Put it down to experience and don't ever let him treat you like that again.