I'm writing in desperation because I really don't know how to help DH with a dilemma he has with regard to his dad. DH's parents are products of 60s art school and had a very experimental lifestyle, esp sexually. When DH and his brothers were kids there was a lot of homemade porn around the house, mostly pics from parties his parents gave/attended. Amongst this DH (aged 8y) found pictures of a little girl he knew performing various sex acts. His brothers saw similar pics, the 3 of them have a "gallows humour" about their dad, but the subject has never been discussed properly. MIL is in complete denial about the way the family was, and since she and fIL divorced is even more of a wet rag than ever.
Since the paedophile programme on BBC2 DH has been having nightmares and thinks he should contact someone, esp as his dad has recently remarried and now has a 12y.o. stepdaughter. DH feels that this isn't the sort of thing one ever has a passing interest in and suspects hid dad prob looks at internet sites. To complicate matters further his mother is now dating the father of the girl in the photos.. DH is worried that police will be unable to check his computer/ will cause such a scene, find nothing and FIL's life will be wrecked.
DH doesn't have regular contact with either parent, gets on well with his brothers but he always calls them..He has also admitted that he goes through stages of thinking that I must see him as a potential abuser etc..All very upsetting. I can reassure him about himself, have pointed out that his dad just wouldn't come across kiddie porn sites "by accident" etc, but don't know what to do next. My gut feeling is that DH should speak to the police and leave it in their hands but i don't want to push him into anything, esp as most of the stuff DH saw is now 2o years or more in the past...HELP PLEASE!!"!
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angharad · 17/06/2002 11:15
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