I feel trapped

[Clairebear252]

I've got two very young children and have been on maternity leave for the past 18 months. My partner works full time and brings home a good wage. But recently I've started to feel like I'm trapped.
My SMP is put into the joint account in order to pay for the house and bills so I am left with no money to do anything with the children.
I can't drive so getting out and about is hard especially with no money.
Even on his days off I am left looking after the children, doing the shopping, cooking, cleaning and night feeds. Some weeks I don't leave the house all week.
I hate to say it but I hate being at home. I am due to go back to work soon but I know I will still be tackling everything I am now as well as 35hours a week at work.
What should I do?

[jeaux90]

Sit him down. Explain how you feel about the current situation and make sure you agree a shared plan at 50/50 duties before you go back to work!

He sounds like he is being a real nob.

I work full time and am a single parent, I know it's hard but as a couple it should be shared ffs xxx

[TheNaze73]

You do need to talk before you go back.

[ANewDawn]

If you allow him to continue like this, then it will lead to a whole heap of resentment and you marriage will likely break down eventually. Tackle it now. Couples counselling if you can't agree. Learn how to drive. Get independent. Get out there.

[grobagsforever]

Does all his salary go into the joint account or is he keeping disposable income for himself and leaving you without any?

[Clairebear252]

He keeps his salary. I pay my bills and put what I can towards the house and have next to nothing left x

[SadTrombone]

Set up a new, single, bank account, have your wages paid into there. Still make your contribution to the household but only what's fair based on outgoings and what you're both earning.
If he kicks off about this then I'm afraid he's being financially abusive (if he isn't already - which he may well be by the sounds of it)