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thesizeofacow · 16/01/2017 06:49

DC were with their Dad and I have just spent another weekend alone.

I see friends maybe once or twice a month due to distance. Odd coffee during week with another mum.

I'm going to have to start meeting up with strangers aren't I? I'm rubbish at small talk.

I really miss daily chats or watching TV with someone.

I'm forgetting what normal company is like. Its very daunting to meet new people. But that's the only way out of this isn't it?

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Lovemusic33 · 16/01/2017 11:51

I am the same, hate spending a day alone.
I joined the local gym and pool and I also do online dating ( I try and arrange a date each weekend when dc's are at their dads), if I have no date then I go to the gym, do the food shop and visit family.

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Shoxfordian · 16/01/2017 14:25

I suggest Meet Up as a really good way to make new friends where you live and there are lots of different things you can do on there depending what your interests are

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thesizeofacow · 16/01/2017 21:01

I have registered on meet up but haven't yet plucked up the courage to go to anything. My social skills are so rusty. But I should try.

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CatBallou2 · 16/01/2017 21:28

I'm the same as you thesizeofacow, except there's less opportunity to meet people where I live, and I'm not good at meeting strangers, anyway - feel very awkward. I don't mind being on my own , but the only way to make a life is to make the effort, and I'm doing that very slowly.

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Shoxfordian · 17/01/2017 08:31

Yeah you should definitely try to go to something! Maybe a book club so you've got something to talk about in common with everyone or even a cinema night which is social but doesn't involve much talking.

I joined meet up when I moved to London a few years ago and I've made some really good friends through it. Be brave! There's nothing to lose by trying it

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Fadingmemory · 17/01/2017 08:44

The Meet Up group where I live has a 20s and 30s section called 'I Want to Go Out' - just looked and there are walks, pub meets, meals out, gamer, geek, running and many other interests. Perhaps there is something similar near you. I joined hill walking clubs some of which have specific groups for 20s and 30s. It is a very difficult adjustment for you and takes time. Good luck.

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InfoFreako · 17/01/2017 15:18

Why not join a club (running, athletics, language, etc)?

That way you'll meet interesting and engaging people - much better than staying in watching tv eating the fatty snacks!

Cheers.

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thesizeofacow · 17/01/2017 16:28

fatty snacks?

Having had a proper look meet up seems to be really good and have a lot on where I live. Cinema would be an easy start.

A friend joked it was a dating site which put me off but sounds like it's not.

Good luck to others in same boat. I wonder if it's easier to find motivation as the days/nights get brighter. It's too easy to sit home on wet wintry days.