Trying to keep safe into 2017

cherrycrumblecustard · 2016-12-26 11:42:23

It feels so indulgent to have a second thread, please don't anyone feel they have to contribute. As i said in my last post on the other thread, my huge fear is my children. That they will grow up, conclude I was wrong to leave DH, and hate me, or pity me. Somehow the idea of my teenage or adult children loving me is alien. That's quite sad. Inspired by Bertie's old thread (thank you) a list of behaviour he does or has done that I don't like and would want to change: - demanding re sex, I will say no, wait, oh not now, oh hang on, he will just carry on as if I haven't said anything. He will pull my pants down, I will pull them up, he pulls them down then sometimes grabs my wrists so I can't carry on. It sounds awful, it's not. It's annoying. He isn't always respectful if I don't like something. - overly arrogant and dismissive, if I raise concerns about something or ask about something, he brushes it off or implies/says outright I'm stupid. 'What are you on about now? Oh really ' (scornful voice) 'is that what Megan / Sarah / Joanna said?' - shouts, at me, sometimes at the children. Too strict. There are other things. I don't know how much to say really.

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