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Wwydaboutit · 09/12/2016 21:03

I had my beautiful baby boy last year and I have also been homeschooling 2 of my children. Since January I have been wanting to return the children back to school I think it would be good for them. When I spoke to my partner about it the first time in January he stomped around telling me why I shouldn't do it. I left it at that and continued to home school. I put my eldest into an online secondary school when she turned 10 hoping it would challenge her a bit.

I spoke to my partner again in June about it and he gave the same reasons why I shouldn't. I tried to explain to him why it would be good for them and how I am not enough. I have no family support and he works a lot longer now than when he used to when we decided to home school. It ended up getting heated and him calling me a stupid thick bitch. I continued to home school.

I pulled her out of the internet school September time it weren't doing her any good so I began to teach her again. My oldest goes to boarding school as well she is 12 my partner suggested that she takes the train home which is a 2 hour journey. He is doing a course every other weekend but I refused she has never travelled on a train before and this time around I gave him a few nasty words back.

He is now holding a grudge against me over the things I said and now he resents me for not working. The whole point of me wanting to return the children back to school was so I could complete my course and go to work. We haven't spoken since Sunday I have no one else to talk to and I feel very lonely. The children have a couple of clubs to go to but its not the same.

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jeaux90 · 09/12/2016 23:05

Oh god this is a story I see sow many times. Look I am really sorry but you need to do what's right by you in the first instance which is get back to work and get your independence back. I see this so often. The man says stay at home and look after the kids then a few years later starts resenting it or gets their heads turned by a sassy women they work with then starts moaning about the situation they helped create. Be stern about you wanting to get back to work and the childcare situation will be resolved as a consequence I guess. And no I would let her do that train journey on her own, he is being a real prick about that. Having your own career and money is good for your soul xxxx

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jeaux90 · 09/12/2016 23:05

Wouldn't let her I mean x

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Wwydaboutit · 10/12/2016 15:12

Thanks for the advice. I received an email the other day from admissions the school I have applied for has places available. The kids are looking forward to going back to school. I think my partner wants me to home school, complete my course, find work, look after my 1 year old and clean the house. He wants me to do all of that something or someone will be neglected. I cant live with that on my conscience.