Together with DH for 15 years. We were happy before having DC (we have two aged 6 and 3) but since DC, especially DC2 we just don't seem to get on .
I feel that any time we spend together as a family (or rare time alone as a couple) is spent stressed and bickering. Not in front of DC but their behaviour always seems worse when we are both off together.
I'm starting to think this is ridiculous and can't continue. We've talked about it loads but nothing changes. Fault on both sides I'm sure.
Common arguments:-
Mess - he hates it, I do try to be tidy but think it's part of life with DC
Activities on weekends - he says we do too much but when I ask what he wants to do he basically wants to relax (watch telly etc) in a way that I do not think is compatible with youngish DC
Play dates - again, he doesn't like them because of the mess which I just think is fucking miserable.
Work - he's full time and I know he feels I have an easier ride as I am part time - money is tight but manageable and the part time thing is an agreed decision which he says he supports.
Discipline- I think he's too harsh; he thinks I'm too weak.
But... we love each other, compromise on activities at the weekend and things can be really good. Sex life has improved recently. I'm sure there is a way to improve this but with another weekend stretching ahead we are both miserable. It shouldn't be like this :(
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Bickering with DH - how can I improve weekends as this is not fun?
SecretMagicThings · 09/12/2016 09:40
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