Hi :)
Dp is 40, I'm 39. We have 2dc, 13 and 5.
He has never really been into sex very much, mainly after a drink and he struggles to ejaculate unless he finishes off himself.
I've never had a massive sex drive but am feeling massively rejected as it's less than once every couple of months. The problems with the ejaculation have only been in the last few months.
We've just had a massive argument as I feel really low about it, was diagnosed last week with bpd and am assessing my life and feeling very unsupported in general and like he's only here for the dc.
I've often had a feeling that he's into men, call it gut instinct I don't know.
He spends a lot of time with his friend who is also our neighbour and is there pretty much fri/sat night. I've no problem with this but said to him that his friend may as well be his boyfriend ( childish I know ) and he said something along the lines of " he might as well be " then realised what he'd said and backtracked.
He has just stormed off out with friend to football and said that he has never had a sex drive, accused me of fancying random men we know and then said if I feel like this then go and find someone else if that's all I want him for!
I'm sorry this is so long, feeling rejected and unattractive and wish I could get on his head.
He has just used every excuse under the sun why we don't have sex- dc, work, me being unwell blah blah.
Surely I can't live like this!
Just to add he's on antidepressants and is also blaming them but was like this before he started taking them around 2 years ago.
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Dp has zero sex drive
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Zoflorabore · 04/12/2016 10:42
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