I have 2 DD with different fathers. One is 13 one 3.
With DD13 I have been separated with her dad since before age 1. We have always had alternate christmases, but she has always stayed with me Christmas Eve. The first couple I let him sleep on the sofa, after that, I used to call him as soon as she was awake and he would come to watch her open her presents.
I have recently split with DD3's dad. As it is not my Christmas to have DD13 it makes sense that I have them together next year. DD3's dad will be having her to stay Christmas Eve and I am completely devastated. I've literally cried everyday since it was decided. The thought that I won't see her face when she first wakes up and realises Santa had been is destroying me. I will see her for an hour or so. If this had been my Christmas, I would've done as I did with elder DD, I don't feel like either of us should miss out at Christmas. I guess with out split being recent I don't understand how he can do this. I will literally never feel the same way about him again, as much as I understand it is the 'right' way to do things.
I'm trying to make the best of the run up to Christmas with my DD's and will make Christmas Eve day as special as possible, but how do I deal with this? How do I stop myself from crying every time I think of Christmas? How do I hold myself together on Christmas Eve for elder DD, once I hand DD3 over to her dad?
Sorry for such a long post. Any advice would be gratefully received.
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Christmas without my children
fakefuss · 04/12/2016 07:10
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