Girlfriend withholds affection, long, sorry

[Nickname11111]

So, I've only been with my girlfriend for 3 months, I'm 32, she's 41
There's some things on my mind. For example, throughout the day if I go to kiss her, she'll say "oh gross" I've told her I don't like this, she just says I'm playing, I said it's only fun if both parties think so.
She'll spend all day hinting at sex, then towards bedtime start saying things like "oh maybe I won't" "I can tell you want it" etc. Then when bedtime comes she says no im tired. Let's go to sleep.
When in bed she says "what do you want me to do?" I say "do what you want" no she says, you have to tell me or I'm doing nothing. If I do the same back she says "oh I'm bored, goodnight"
I have explained to her that this makes me feel shit but she just tells me to get a grip.
I am starting to feel like this is kind of controlling? Or is it just me?
Just now I said "what's wrong? You're quiet" she said "nothing" I said "ok, hug? " she said "no stop nagging" and looked at me like I was a piece of shit.
Something feels off. If I get upset over anything she tells me I'm being ridiculous and over emotional.

[Nickname11111]

We are both women by the way

[LoftDweller]

After 3 months I would be cutting my losses tbh. She sounds awful.

[MissMalteser]

All this after 3 months? I don't mean to sound harsh but it sounds like she is already fed up in the relationship and is not so subtly telling you! Do you like together?

[MissMalteser]

*live

[Justmuddlingalong]

After only 3 months together, I can only think this situation won't improve. She is making you feel like shit. If you stay you are allowing her.

[ElspethFlashman]

Run for the hills.

She's a Grade A Head Melter.

[Matchstickbox]

Sounds like a game, not a nice one for you. Power play. I think...
She wants you to want her, she wants to be desired.

[whaaaaat]

Life's too short for this nonsense. Leave.

[Nickname11111]

No we don't live together, but in the last 3 weeks she has been here everyday/night apart from when I'm at work, then she's back again that evening. Her instigation, not mine.
She spent one day away, and went cold on texts saying I think we should have some time apart, I said ok, she was back the next day!

[Nickname11111]

Yeah I think she does want me to want her, it does seem like a power game that I won't play!

[Lilacpink40]

Three months, this should be fun and you should feel secure. Sounds like horrible game-playing at your expense.

What's stopping you leaving?

[Nickname11111]

What's stopping me leaving? Well, I keep wondering whether it's me?

[Matchstickbox]

I'd leave if it's. It the game you want to play. Not worth it for you too manipulative.

[Matchstickbox]

If it's not

[whaaaaat]

Urgh, if my gf acted like this, I would be beyond furious. Seriously, you don't need to put up with this.

[Nickname11111]

We were in the car today, she needed a code for something and was asking me for it, and something went wrong when she was trying to sign up to something. I said shall I help, she got angry and said no, I said ok. Then she started demanding info that I didn't know and got angry that I didn't know. I told her to listen to herself and what have I actually done, she had no answer. Later I said I think you should apologise, she said never, hell will freeze over first. She's since been off all day, hence me asking for a hig, which she turned down saying stop nagging

[Nickname11111]

My problem is I don't get mad, I get emotional instead, so instead of getting angry I'm far more likely to cry, then look
irrational

[RayofFuckingSunshine]

Get out of there. Now. If this is what she is like after 3 months I certainly wouldn't want to be sticking around for the long term.

[wheelwithinawheel]

Not worth the hassle. Gripes after 3 months is not a relationship in the making - she sounds like complete headwork. Move on.

[MissMalteser]

Did you know each other beforehand? I'm struggling to see how a 3 month relationship could descend into this state so rapidly??? It sounds like she resents you, no relationship should be this much hard work never mind one that's 12 weeks old

[Nickname11111]

I know, I feel like it will only get worse, but something's stopping me leaving 😫 I just don't know what to do. I'll feel sad ending it I think, that's what's stopping me, I think I love her, but it's getting to the point where I feel like I'm walking on eggshells

[ElspethFlashman]

She honestly seems like a huge cow.

I really hope the scales are falling from your eyes.

Her honeymoon behaviour is OVER.

[Nickname11111]

If she resents me, what's stopping her walking away? I'm just confused. Sometimes she will be nice and then a few days later I'm feeling like shit again. I just don't know what's going on. She text me saying she loves me but I guess words don't mean anything and actions speak louder.

[Justmuddlingalong]

You'll feel sad ending it? You'll feel worthless, needy and neurotic if you stay. You don't love her, there's nothing lovable about her.