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Any suggestions for a small wedding

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usernoidea Mon 28-Nov-16 14:31:33

My bf and I are keen to get married next year but to us being married is more important than the wedding itself.
In addition to this his parents are now remarried and when together at family gatherings are a tad frosty
In ideas as to how we can involve them, whilst keeping it small, without us getting too stressed?! X

Happybunny19 Mon 28-Nov-16 14:35:07

Tropical beach somewhere lovely without family?

Chasingsquirrels Mon 28-Nov-16 14:35:23

We had a registry office wedding and then planned to go for a meal afterwards at a restaurant in a local hotel that we used to eat at.
There would have been 12 of us.

Not sure how that would work with frosty relations between attendees.

What about just the registry office wedding, maybe a toast in a local pub. Then go and have a meal to celebrate on your own?

smEGGnogg Mon 28-Nov-16 14:39:03

Some friends of ours got married late afternoon at the registry office then had a cake reception and champagne toast at their local pub. They put some money behind the bar for everyone then went straight off on their honeymoon. It was lovely.

MrsFring Mon 28-Nov-16 14:41:44

We buggered off to New York - our favourite city - and got married in the UN chapel. Was ace.

PigletWasPoohsFriend Mon 28-Nov-16 14:42:23

That sounds lovely smeg

2014newme Mon 28-Nov-16 14:43:11

Problem with frosty relationship between guests is its hard to hide with a small wedding. I think I would go abroad and have a big party when I got back.

usernoidea Mon 28-Nov-16 15:12:50

It's really tricky doing small when things are awkward and I'd love to have the balls to just F off but some parents would be devastated!
Thanks guys x

A church wedding has the guests on different sides of the church and the formal setting means that people usually behave. Then go to a pub for lunch.

Goingtobeawesome Mon 28-Nov-16 16:33:44

If they'd be devastated then they need to grow up and not be frosty on your wedding day.

Mouikey Mon 28-Nov-16 18:53:23

Family politics aside, what would your dream wedding look like - that's the starting point and then try to adapt.

It might be worth talking to the parents/in laws in advance to ask them to set aside their differences for the day to facilitate a loving memory for your own marriage. Might that be possible?

MikeUniformMike Mon 28-Nov-16 19:01:15

Smeggnog's suggestion sounds great. You could do a small church wedding followed by a pub meal with no top table or a village hall buffet. Been to wedding like that and they're just as nice if not nicer than hugely expensive ones.

TheNaze73 Mon 28-Nov-16 19:30:42

Love the suggestion from smeg

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