I need some advice about what the best next steps are to help bring my marriage back from the brink.
History is.....
Just over a year ago dh slept in the same bed with another woman. No sex but I expect spooning and possibly inappropriate touching. We are slowly moving past it but it's been hard.
To top it off dh then lost his job (no fault of his) but it has taken a year for him to get something else. He was not as proactive as he should have been and didn't do as much at home as he could have considering he was not working.
Most people have told me they would have kicked him out long ago just to get him off his backside and working and let him home once he had put some effort in. That's just not me and in hindsight I should have been tougher and not let him get away with what happened.
The past few months have been hard. It's pushed me to the limit and it's also had an impact on dh and dd (who is almost 3) not surprisingly.
He is now working which is good but I find I am increasingly frustrated with some of his behaviour. Because of the hours we work its all hands on deck for dd and chores and the dog. It just feels like I run around like an idiot and he doesn't.
DD is being difficult at the moment and we are approaching it in different ways. Several times dh has shouted at her and this morning he was quite forcefully pulling her t-shirt over her head (after shouting at her)
Yes she's a pickle at the moment but it's her age. I don't think it ever warrants shouting and we need to stay calm around her and save the stress until we are away from her so it doesn't impact on her. He just seems incapable of that at the moment and it's annoying me.
He loves dd and I can see she loves him but day in day out I am never sure if our marriage can survive and I want it to.
I feel the past year or so has tested us and I am proud we are still standing but only just. We need to find ways to move forward and most past what has happened and I am struggling what to do to achieve this.
Any ideas?
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Pandora85 · 27/11/2016 10:27
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