One year ago I moved back to the UK after living in Spain for a year. Although I've been getting by and had some really good times back home, I don't feel this city is my long-term home. Since leaving my Spanish job, my friend has become manager at the company where we worked together and has offered me a position there shortly after next summer - it would be an opportunity for me to hone my skills (which will be transferrable here with a bit more experience) & I do miss the country and the friends I made there very much.
Lately I began online dating & stated I was looking for some fun dates but nothing too serious due to my travel plans. The man I am now dating read my profile & then contacted me. We have just had our fifth date, where he referred to me as his 'girlfriend'. We have not had the exclusivity talk so I told him I was more comfortable dating and getting to know each other for a bit longer.
But it has made me realise things are getting serious & I feel myself slowly falling for him. He has told me that he thinks I am a 'rare find' & that he likes me very much. He travels frequently for work being self-employed as I have done and his brother and their wife also live in Spain. He has said he'd like to learn the language & in some way, I wonder if it works out if he might come with me. I realise it is too early for that but truthfully I never expected to meet someone who treats me with so much respect, kindness and affection (I do realise it's early days). He also told me he was considering moving to the same city I would like to relocate to back in the UK (before I even told him of my similar thought).
On the sixth date we are going for a hike and he is going to cook me dinner. Should I tell him about my plans then or later? Feeling torn and like I want to handle things v tactfully.
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When/how should I tell the man I'm dating about my plans to leave the country?
KatDubs261 · 17/11/2016 22:11
You say that but you should see the way he looks at me! I can't remember the last time someone looked at me with such tenderness over the last couple of dates and I feel a strong sense of security/calm whenever we're together. He is a complete breath of fresh air compared to others I have dated.
I think that's why I'm so afraid to speak up. I'm afraid to ruin a (currently) good thing. 
wow Lucille, that's some story . It must have been tough for you at the time!
It's difficult because you can form this totally unexpected connection with someone and yet also have a really strong connection with a place and/or dreams that you've been harbouring for a long time.
Agreed that I've told him now and he can decide what he wants to do. He said he wants to go out again next week after I told him this so time will tell.
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