Hi
I'm not sure this is best place to ask advice, but I'm desperate.
I'm in my early 50s and have been married for over 20 years. We have two teenage children and life is generally good.
However, my wife has no interest in sex and hasn't had much for most of our married life. This year we've done it three times - the last time back in May. Before we were married, she couldn't get enough but as soon as we were married it started to going downhill.
Many a time over the years, I've tried to talk about this but she always has some excuse for it not being the right time - kids too young, worried about work, tired, ill, kids in the house - the list goes on. It's as if she can only have sex if the conditions are just right and, of course, they never are. I'm sure these are just excuses, though, and deep down there's another reason she's not interested. I've stopped trying to initiate sex because I can't cope with the constant rejection.
I feel my life is passing me by and I've been cheated out of a good sex life for the last 20-plus years. I don't want to leave my wife, as we are very happy in other ways but it feels like we're nothing more than a good team working together to bring up a family and run a home.
This is eating away at me and I have no one to turn to. Any advice would be welcome.
Thanks
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Phil12345 · 15/11/2016 09:00
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