Hi - long time lurker here, just wondered if anyone can give me some advice on this.
Been with my partner for 8 years, he decided to end our relationship about a month ago. (Long story but for the best due to him being a serial womaniser/cheat) We rent a house together, he says I can have anything I want from the house and he will help me financially to move out. We have decided that we are not telling the kids until after Xmas (I have a DD 10 and he has a DD of 12 who stays eow and holidays). I cannot afford to rent this house on my own that is not an option, which means I cannot afford for him to move out either. I also want to be able to choose my next home carefully, it needs to be affordable and in the right catchment area for my DD's High School so this way I am not under immediate pressure to find something.
It all sounded lovely and amicable on the surface but I am really struggling, even though this was an unhealthy relationship and it ending is the best thing for me I am finding it so hard to cope with.
He seems fine, as he is inbetween contracts currently he is doing all of the housework, cooking dinners, servicing my car etc. We are still sharing a bed (no sex), watching tv together, we even have a pre-booked weekend away planned which he still wants is to go on?
I feel like I am living in a bubble with no way of healing until we finally part ways for good. I am torn between wanting to give the kids some stability and a lovely xmas together (his turn to have DD this year) and wanting to just get away and begin the process of getting over him.
I am rambling now but I suppose I'm asking if anyone else has lived with their ex partner prior to moving out and how did that work out for them? After Xmas I was planning on telling the kids/family etc and then have him move into the spare room until I am ready to move out. Or do I hold off telling them until I have something organised? I just dont know what to do for the best.
I want to minimise any upset for the sake of the kids - Practically this seems like the best solution with minimal disruption and defintely better for me financially. But my heart is aching, it feels so normal, I keep forgetting that we are not together anymore and my heart feels broken all over again.
Any help/advice would be lovely x
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doyliewoo · 14/11/2016 14:01
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