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What to do with a Man Eater

(82 Posts)
Lolaandstan Sun 13-Nov-16 21:44:13

If a Woman is flirting with yr husband what would you do? Any experiences? what happened?

Desmondo2016 Sun 13-Nov-16 21:46:35

Need to know circs including hubbies actions/ response in order to answer.

YonicProbe Sun 13-Nov-16 21:46:49

Talk to your husband about it.

Man eater?!

Threecherries Sun 13-Nov-16 21:47:28

I wouldn't do anything...well, there is nothing to be done is there?

People flirt. How your H reacts is the important thing.

SilentBiscuits Sun 13-Nov-16 21:48:11

Does your husband need protecting from this predator or is he able to fend her off by himself?

BubbleGumBubble Sun 13-Nov-16 21:51:30

Unless she is chewing on his left arm I am not sure what you can do.

If he is uncomfortable can ge just not say I am married or walk away from her.

AyeAmarok Sun 13-Nov-16 22:01:59

What does your husband think of her?

Lolaandstan Sun 13-Nov-16 22:10:00

Hubby comments on posts on fb. Her posts are a bit flirty. It makes me feel a bit stupid. Getting more regular. I trust my hubby but she loves herself loves attention and is clearly trying to get some from hubby.

39up Sun 13-Nov-16 22:11:12

Well, if you trust your husband just ignore her. He can deal, surely?

PoldarksBreeches Sun 13-Nov-16 22:12:23

Your problem is your hubby, not the man eater

OohhThatsMe Sun 13-Nov-16 22:14:02

Oh come on, it's obviously something that is worrying the OP - yes, it's up to her husband to deal with it, but it's very irritating, isn't it?

AndTheBandPlayedOn Sun 13-Nov-16 22:15:21

I agree with PoldarksBreches. Why is your dh even responding to her at all?

Arfarfanarf Sun 13-Nov-16 22:15:30

Nothing.
No man ever got eaten against his wishes.
He's choosing to give her attention.
He could choose to not keep commenting on her fb given she's getting more flirty.

Id deal with a 'man eater' by telling the man if he chooses to get eaten he can fuck right off.

FourToTheFloor Sun 13-Nov-16 22:16:31

No it's not just her with her dh. Decent people don't go after married people

I hate that fecking line trotted out on MN.

I trust my dh 100% but I'd be bloody annoyed with someone chatting him up.

KeepCoolCalmAndCollected Sun 13-Nov-16 22:16:47

Tell him to block her.
Personally, I would just do it myself.
If contact is still maintained through other means, you have a problem.

SmallBee Sun 13-Nov-16 22:17:31

You don't need to do anything with this 'maneater '. If you're uncomfortable with how your husband is behaviour is around her then it's your husband who is the problem. Have an adult conversation with him about it.

Threecherries Sun 13-Nov-16 22:18:02

How do you think your H would be reacting if it was a man coming on to him on FB?

Like I said, people flirt.

AyeAmarok Sun 13-Nov-16 22:18:15

Ah.

Your problem is your husband. Not this woman.

SmallBee Sun 13-Nov-16 22:18:40

Behaviour = behaving. Stupid phone

KeepCoolCalmAndCollected Sun 13-Nov-16 22:18:45

Arfarfanarf is spot on.

YonicProbe Sun 13-Nov-16 22:20:09

So she posts, "hot in the garden ;-)" wearing a bikini and he comments... That sort of thing?

MsGameandWatch Sun 13-Nov-16 22:20:22

"Man Eater"

grin I must find a way to use this term in my every day life.

Bluntness100 Sun 13-Nov-16 22:22:14

I would agree, deal with uour husband, if you don't like him interacting with him then tell him to please stop as it's upsetting uou,

Maneater is quite an unusual term these days. Saying she loves herself and loves attention, do uou know her? If she's flirting wnd it's escalating, then it's because he's paying her attention.

She is Not the problem, he is.

Lolaandstan Sun 13-Nov-16 22:22:42

Yes I will talk to him. I don't like having to say bock her. Don't want to look like a jealous nutter. I want to protect my family and i just want her to stop thinking its ok to flirt. She has done this to a friend of mines partner too.

39up Sun 13-Nov-16 22:37:21

Well, in some circles that is normal. My DH is quite verbally flirty, and that's ok. I don't mind. In other relationships it isn't. That's also ok. But she doesn't magically know what your relationship boundaries are. Only your DH knows that so it's up to him to maintain them.

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