Evening all,
My partner and I have been together for 3 years, in our early twenties with an infant young son. Our sex life is pretty much non-existent, it has got to the point where we rarely have it at all anymore. We have had it 2 times in the past 3 months. I used to try to initiate a lot but I would get rejected, so I have pretty much stopped trying.
When we do have sex it is very wooden. He is not interested in oral, touching or trying anything new. Just bog-standard stick it in. Most of the time I do not orgasm as he doesn't like to touch me or give oral. He will often finish and then just roll over and go to sleep. I have suggested many things that we could try and he always rejects them. It is like he just isn't interested in having sex.
I know it is wrong to compare, but my sex life with my ex was incredible. He always made sure that we were both satisfied and enjoyed ourselves. He was totally open to new things. My sex life with my current OH couldn't be more different.
I've tried to talk to him about it, I have asked him what is wrong and if there is anything he would like to do. He always says there is nothing wrong, that he doesn't see what the big deal is and makes out I am sex obsessed?
I know it sounds terrible, but I often fantasise about other men. I don't get any sexual attention from my OH. He never looks at me in a lustful way and when we do have sex its usually because I have nagged and badgered him. I've started to resent him because I feel as though I have lost so much of my femininity and sexuality.
So my question is, would you stay in a sexless relationship? Am I just being totally selfish? I feel like I should stay and make things work for my son, but after 3 years it is killing me to never feel wanted.
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No Sex - Would you stay?
user1479064517 · 13/11/2016 19:26
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