Genuine question - how is "fun" fun ?

[Pisssssedofff]

I do not get it at all I really don't .... Am I missing out ?

[herwegoagain123]

Yes you are. Fun is something you really enjoy doing whatever that is. It lets you be yourself with no worries or cares and makes you feel better about yourself. Odd question.

[SirChenjin]

Can you elaborate OP?

[Toffeelatteplease]

I think fun can be dependent on who you are with, your state of mind and the state of mind of those around you.

What is fun is personal to you. What you find fun other people might not. If you're not finding something fun that is generally thought of as fun it might be it's just not for you and that's okay or it might be that who you are doing it with is wrong.

[Pisssssedofff]

Did you get what I meant by "fun"
I take it to mean casual sex, hopefully that gets picked up on, in the replies.
I just cannot for the life of me see how it's enjoyable for either party

[LetsGoFuckingMental]

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[ChocolateBudgeCake]

As in 'we're just having fun'?

If so then it's only fun if both parties are on the same page but if one wants more from the relationship then it can be a problem.

[Toffeelatteplease]

because people are different and like different things. If you are not enjoying it it might be because the person you are doing ito with is wrong, whats happening in bed is wrong or the whole concept just isn't for you. You'd deal with each of those problems in different ways

[Pisssssedofff]

It's not even dressed up as a relationship though, there's no mention of that just "fun" as in letting a random stranger stick it in you.

[Toffeelatteplease]

Is this you not enjoying it or a hypothetical?

[Pisssssedofff]

It's something I keep getting asked for and its an absolute no, but as I say I just can't quite get my head around why anyone would say yes

[39up]

Well, when I was younger, before DH, because I liked sex. And I met some people who looked nice and who I thought I would enjoy touching and being touched by. And that was what happened.

Much like I like it when I get a massage at the spa (well, not exactly in the same way, but that's pleasant physical contact from a stranger), or something like that. Peculiar question. Surely there is meant to be a physically pleasurable element to sex? It isn't just something women give up because they love a man. It also feels really good, right?

[Toffeelatteplease]

I could get me head round saying yes. If I wasnt in a relationship and didn't really want a relationship at that moment in time I would miss the physicality of sex. With the right person.

[LetsGoFuckingMental]

Sex is fun. It's not only about putting things in one another although that is also fun, obviously.

[WickedBadZoot]

Because different people like different things. Crochet and crafting sound like the most pointless boring thing on earth to some people, others think its the best thing ever and can't imagine not doing it.

Same with casual sex. I've done it, and enjoyed it. I'm happily married now but if ever (God forbid) I found myself single again I wouldn't rule it out.

Is all sex just "sticking one thing in another" to you? Sex is fun and enjoyable. I admit it's different when married/in an LTR, because of the emotional connection. But I doubt people have casual sex with someone they aren't attracted to at all, I couldn't.

[Threepumpkins]

My only thought is why don't people call a spade a spade?

If someone just wants sex, why can't they say 'i just want sex'?

Calling sex 'fun' (noun) makes it sounds like they are trying a bit too hard.

I can see the attraction of 'just sex' but I'd prefer sex and a relationship too so I probably wouldn't choose it. Each to their own though.

[Rumtopf]

Because sometimes you just want sex. Without the emotional crap, or taking care of someone's ego. Just to fuck.

If that's not your style, then that's ok too, but put it in your profile - "not interested in nsa fun" and that will hopefully narrow down the types of contact people are making with you.

[NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom]

Sex for me is enjoyable, if I was single then no strings sex would fall into my fun bracket & is something I'd indulge in. If it's not for you then it's not for you, nothing wrong with that.

[Kidnapped]

"It is something I keep getting asked for..."

Do you mean that these are men you are meeting online? And these men want no-strings attached sex?

Cynical old me usually thinks that a man saying that he is looking for 'fun' means that he already has a domestic set-up with a woman and children and he's not looking to replicate it.

He wants to keep his family life separate and have 'fun' or sex outside of that.

He might be saying that he is single and looking for fun in order to increase his odds of nabbing someone. If he said he was married and looking for fun, he'd get fewer bites.

[TheNaze73]

Men who say they want fun, want just that.

They want their Saturday's to go to football not going around IKEA looking at soft furnishings.

I think fun can be fun like an earlier poster said, if it's that for both parties

The worst people are those who give out the impression that they want more than fun and lie about it

[39up]

Just as an aside, women can want fun and no string too!

I kinda hate this lie that we're told by society, that men would fun and sex and women don't really like sex and just do it for the romance and the cuddles and to lure men into commitment and IKEA.

I love DH. He's fab and I love being with him and cooking and cuddling and gardening and going round IKEA. But honestly, if he hadn't come along I was way happier having fun, having sex with attractive people who made me feel great and then saying 'good night', kicking them out and sleeping on my own in my awesome huge bed, and spending Sunday morning watching trash TV or reading a book, and being beholden to no one. And if (and I really hope it never happens) I was single again I would absolutely still want sex, because it's something I think is great, but would be pretty picky about getting back into another relationship.

[RedMapleLeaf]

It's something I keep getting asked for and its an absolute no, but as I say I just can't quite get my head around why anyone would say yes

I can't get my head around why people think that playing bingo or watching football is fun, but I understand that different people are different.

[WarwickDavisAsPlates]

I used to have casual sex when I was younger, I enjoyed sex but I'm not really a relationship type person. I had great friendships, good job a very active social life, I didn't feel the desire to have a romantic relationship at the time.

It's pretty much that simple.

[RestlessTraveller]

I think you're being a bit judgy.