Hi Everyone,
I will try to keep this as short as I can, but it spans years! So here goes........
I am lucky enough at 32 to have both sets of Grandparents still alive. One set (my dad's) have been very close with me since I was around 3. My mum and me have never been close, and I am sad that all my childhood memories involve my dad, Gran and Grandad. My mum was never involved, she never showed love and she didn't join in family fun. Her own mum was like this with her.
When I got engaged in 2003 she made me cry, she wouldn't look at my ring and was quite horrible even though my dad and the rest of the family were happy. It's like she has an emotional block? Her own mother was like this with her, so I can't understand why she would treat her own daughters like this.
She didn't get involved with the wedding, but I had my gran with me. She helped pick my dress and flowers as my mum didn't want to know. I would be lost without my Gran. Fast forward again, my husband has Muscular Dystrophy and we needed ivf 6.5 years of ivf/iui/icsi. My dad, Gran and Grandad were the only ones to visit the clinic. I got pregnant with twins, when they were born and my mum was a Nanna for the 1st time and all she could focus on was the fact that my 1st born had my Grans name as a middle name. I waited 6.5 years for that moment and that's all she could say? I feel so hurt, she's never stepped up. I don't get if her mother treated her like this how she can do it to me. She's my mum! I couldn't do it to my daughters, they are my life. If I didn't have my gran I wouldn't be here now. I am scared about when I loose her, she's 76 and my best friend. My mum treats my sister and her daughter different and her baby to be. Because she isn't close to my gran, but she is to my mums mum. I am finding it quite upsetting, my mum is great at getting stuff for my twins. If they need calpol etc, but it's the emotional side I want and need. I am having councilling soon, but it effects me. All I wanted was my mum to love me. How do I move on!
Please be kind, it's a difficult subject for me.
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Ilovemytwins · 07/11/2016 23:35
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