Hi all,
I'm coming up to my 6th year living with my boyfriend who never used to moan/whinge/whine/btch much when we first started going out and would point out to me how positive everyone said he is....
Recently though, probably last three years or abit less he has got into the habit of moaning about anything and everything.
It started with him crying about work when he got in in the evening, I would listen at the start and try to talk to him about it but he would just moan so bad you couldn't get a word in and by the time he had finished he had exhausted himself and I so I couldn't say anything to help, this continued for months, but the problem was that he would come home from work, have a moan about his problems and then ask his mates to come over, soon as his mates were round it was all laughter and giggles, he was back but because his mates were round I wasn't really included in that happiness and he would be on the ps4 or something anyway...
(I would always remember him saying whenever I would point out to him his moaning "my mates/colleagues say I'm the most positive person they've met"- he can't even hear his own moaning or is too blind to see, I have pointed it out to him before but he disregard's it or doesn't think he is moaning about anything?!?!?! Is he doing this to wind me up because it is definitely working).
He now just moans about whatever anytime he is alone with me. Weekends, he wakes up in a strop, throw some bits around the house in a btch fit and then go off and see a mate and come back like nothing has happened. I think he thinks its normal behaviour to throw stuff around the house cos he does that alot...I've not broken one thing in the whole time we have lived together, it has all been him.
The problem is that I personally can't be bothered in all honesty to help him, I couldn't care less about him when he behaves like this all because he is perfectly fine as soon as he is within the company of his friends.....
(I literally can't be bothered to change him as a person or put effort in, I know that sounds bad or lazy but the problem isn't with me its him...and I wouldn't have to deal with it if I was single...).
Does anyone else have these problems? I know I should do something but like I say why bother? I feel like I'm being an absolute mug putting up with him.
Side note, he has changed jobs countless times since we have been together...
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Boyfriend will only moan to me non stop but forgets to moan when his mates come over....
Linx1990 · 07/11/2016 19:58
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