We both work long hours - him out of the home, long commute and alternate Saturday's. Leaves around 5.30 am and gets back around 6.30 pm. I work 3 days and then look after our toddler, house, home, finances etc the rest of the time.
He is knackered and unwell (long term medical condition which is under control with medication but adds to it all). Needs time to chill when he is at home, which I struggle to give him.
I'm knackered too, find being home with toddler relentless and I suck at housework. It's fairly clean, we are all fed etc but I just feel like I'm spinning in circles and never make progress.
I do everything apart from washing up and ironing. Even at weekends he is here. I feel like we've gotten into a bad pattern of him resting whilst he's home and me continuing to run around like a mad thing. I feel like a servant!!
I see my mum act like this around my dad, my brother around his GF and I don't want my son to assume that he will find someone to do this for him whe he's bigger!
Any advice on how to slowly relinquish responsibility / change this so I don't feel like I'm working non stop and he doesn't help?
I've enabled him which is why we are here, I find giving up control so hard but having all the responsibility stresses me out! What a mess.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Enabling inequality and how to stop ?
15 replies
lockie1983 · 07/11/2016 08:44
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.