Having a really hard time figuring out if my husband has been abusing me for years. It might sound strange but I don't feel like I even know who I am anymore. He constantly criticises me for stupid, irrelevant things, he controls the money, makes pretty much all the financial decisions even though he is crap with money, constantly tells me he can't afford things, even though he can afford to go out drinking or buy himself new clothes. Sexually he pretty much emotionally blackmails me into it, tells me that he "needs to feel close to me", that he feels unloved if I don't do it. He doesn't even seem to care that I am totally not into it. If we don't have sex for a few weeks he starts to get really arsey and sighs all the time, tells me I shouldn't "show" myself to him (as in get changed in the same room). He threatened to leave me because he "doesn't want to be in a sexless marriage" (after two weeks without sex, and I've been suffering severe depression which I am having counselling for, which he does not consider may be a factor at all). To be honest I've been thinking of leaving myself but it's not easy, I have no money and a small baby. Basically since I've been having counselling I've realised how shit and unhealthy our marriage is, but I keep questioning myself. He's always using really dramatic language, and trying to scare me into doing what he wants, he also stops me from doing things because "he'd be worried". I totally feel trapped, downtrodden, and alone. Is this abuse?
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