I'm in the process of separating from my hubby and this week he attempted suicide. He was calling, texting and emailing family friends on the lead up and during so the police got to him in time. He was taken to hospital and sectioned the following morning.
The day before he was very aggressive in the house and emotionally abusive - saying he would kill himself and it would be my fault. He also caught me up by the neck of my dress - all in front of the kids.
There is so much to this story so I'll try and keep it brief. His family live away from us and his siblings came to see him . One of them mentioned a comment I'd made to my STBX about my concerns with him looking after the children on his own. He expressed his own concern - he has sadly been sexually abused by more than one abuser as a child. He said he was concerned because of 'cycles of abuse'. Not really a proper answer. Anyway it seemed they were holding me responsible for tipping him over the edge questioning this issue?
More concerning is many years ago he actually ended up with a caution for viewing child abuse. At the time I bought his story about it being related to his research work. The police report detailed the material had been accessed on one occasion. I just wanted the whole thing to go away and shoved it to the back of my mind. I don't think his family know about this.
More recently I suspected something was up and checked his phone only to see a string of text messages to a brothel owner booking escorts! This is when I decided to leave.....and also when his caution really started playing on my mind.
He's rarely alone with the kids (baby + 2 toddlers). I don't really want him having unsupervised time with them. What do you think the courts would say about this given his background?
His family contacted me today to make it clear they held me responsible for his suicide attempt as I had allowed him to stay in the house giving him mixed messages. Even though we had separate rooms and I always said we were separating. I'm not sure what to do next .
I'm in bits at the moment - not only that he's done this but that his family are blaming me too. They already know about the emotional abuse and aggression too.
One of his family members said I have til Monday to come up with a financial settlement proposal and they will sort it out on his behalf. I'm planning on taking legal advice before I do anything. They are saying absolutely no solicitors.
Has anyone else been blamed for someone else's suicide attempt? It's really tearing me apart.
Do you think I'll be able to get legal backing for him not to have the kids unsupervised?
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howdiditgettothis · 04/11/2016 14:20
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