Hello,
I have been a single parent to my daughter who is four, pretty much since she was conceived (partner had an affair and left me), she has very little contact with her father. I left with nothing,moved nearer to my family and started again.
So much so I am now a student nurse, I have recently started my second year.
Myself and my new partner haven't been together all that long (6 months >) we are aware it is for the long term, he's great with my daughter. We currently split our time between two houses, he has no children.
We know we want to live together, as running two homes is a nightmare. He owns his home, in a bordering county and is in the forces on a fixed contract. I however rent in the south east which is very expensive, I have little help with my daughter and my childcare bill is 1k a month.
We have looked into us moving to be with him, I would loose some income but it would balance out when daughter starts school.
the conundrum is if we want to do it, I will need to move in Feb, and start my second year again at the uni close to him.
there are no third year transfers, so if we go after I'd have to redo another year or I would have to stay where I am for 22Months until I qualify which is a time when realistically we would like to be married and moving forwards.
It seems silly for him to live here, commute and rent when he has a little mortgage.
It's just whether it's so soon, or I am crazy.
It would help in respect daughter could go straight to school rather than moving out after a year which I didn't want to do as she would be established.
Any ideas or thoughts pleSe?
Many thanks
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ALikelyStory · 02/11/2016 17:48
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