Hi there,
I previously wrote a thread about my current situation with my H. The vast majority of replies said to leave and I have taken everything on board and spoke to Women's Aid etc. Part of me wants to make it work for the sake of my daughter and give him a try at being a good husband/dad. Although the sex side of things makes me recoil!
I've lived here for 5 years. 2 hours away from friends and family? Since having my 20month old DD I miss them terribly and would do anything to be back near them.
My DD would grow up with her cousins, her grandparents, a safer pretty place to be. Up here the only ties H has is his mum. She moved closer a few years ago to be nearer him. Without sounding crass, she isn't short of a few pence so if she wanted to come with us, she is in a position to do so.
Work is commutable for H albeit a bit more prices but then the cost of living back near my folks is also a lot cheaper.
I do not want to live up here and bring my daughter up here and I certainly do not want to bring up a second child (should I ever have sex with H again!) up here. I want them to have a lovely close happy family upbringing.
We've had these conversations before and H always comes up with excuses such as he will be tired, he can't leave his mum/friends etc. He sees his friends once every 6 weeks anyway!
I know he is the breadwinner so I probably don't get a say in anything. If I worked full time then I guess I could have more of a say. I'm incredibly isolated and in the years I've lived here I've not made any friends. And it's not for want of trying.
I'm going to bring it up again this eve but I know he will say no. AIBU? Should I just suck it up and accept that this is the life I chose?
Thank you in advance
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Hanginginthebalance · 02/11/2016 16:35
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