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Why do I find sex such a chore?

(3 Posts)
user1473509591 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:06:30

I feel awful because I'm just never in the mood for sex. Luckily my dh is very forgiving but I can tell it's starting to get him down. I enjoy it while I'm in it.. for about 10 minutes. Then I'm begging in my head for it to end. We have sex probably once a month, if that, and honestly I would be happy to never have it. I'm only 25, and I used to have a fairly good sex drive until the kids came along. I can't even bare to cuddle anymore incase he tries it on. What's wrong with me?

Simonneilsbeard Tue 01-Nov-16 21:19:39

How many children do you have? Are they toddlers? Sometimes I can become a little 'touched out' since I have a 2 year old practically hanging off me all day. By the time I get to bed I'm tired and I just want to scoot off to my own side of the bed and have my own personal space back.
how's the relationship in general?

Onlyonce Tue 01-Nov-16 21:29:19

If you have young children I guess by the end of the day you are tired out which could be one factor.

Does he make an effort to be affectionate without it leading to sex? Eg a hug or hand hold?

Does he try to make you feel special and let you know how gorgeous he thinks you are?

I think women need to feel at their best to really want sex and you won't necessarily feel that way if he doesn't demonstrate his affection for you in other ways

Sorry if I haven't explained this very well!

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