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I really don't want my son anymore.

(254 Posts)
LockwoodJ Mon 31-Oct-16 11:43:20

How do I fix this? I don't want him.

Mozfan1 Mon 31-Oct-16 11:44:30

What do you mean you don't want him?

Explain further. See your GP

PurpleDaisies Mon 31-Oct-16 11:44:57

How old is he? What's happened to get you to this point?

I'd make an urgent GP appointment and tell them what's been going on.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Mon 31-Oct-16 11:45:25

Why?

GoldenYorkies Mon 31-Oct-16 11:45:29

Why don't you want your son?

Maudlinmaud Mon 31-Oct-16 11:45:37

What age is your son?
Do you think you may have depression?

LockwoodJ Mon 31-Oct-16 11:46:09

He's 12.

MadHattersWineParty Mon 31-Oct-16 11:46:24

'Fix' it?! How do you mean?

PandoNoPants Mon 31-Oct-16 11:46:50

How old is your son and how long have you been feeling this way?

Sallybowls Mon 31-Oct-16 11:46:51

Why?

Jackie0 Mon 31-Oct-16 11:46:58

Why not just write a comprehensive post ?
This is the mn equivalent of those vague fb posts, all designed to elicit ' what's up hun ?'
There is good advice here if you give posters a chance

LockwoodJ Mon 31-Oct-16 11:47:08

I called the police last week, he assaulted me. DH had to restrain him.

Maudlinmaud Mon 31-Oct-16 11:47:15

Why do you not want him?
What has been happening?

LockwoodJ Mon 31-Oct-16 11:48:37

He used to be such a sweet, sweet boy. He got in with the wrong people at school. He hates me, I hate him. I just want him gone. It's like he isn't mine anymore.

Mozfan1 Mon 31-Oct-16 11:48:41

Oh bloody hell. That's awful op. Is he at school atm?

PurpleDaisies Mon 31-Oct-16 11:49:28

Have you had any input from social services?

There has to be more to it than that incident?

Get some help with/for him?

LockwoodJ Mon 31-Oct-16 11:50:04

Yes. He's in isolation though. They have asked me to come and collect him. I'm not doing it anymore. I've had enough.

saltededamummy Mon 31-Oct-16 11:51:29

Sounds like he has some stresses in his life, I imagine he is struggling with hormones & changes as he is going through puberty, let alone all of the wild & scary things that are out there in social media and school and so on.
So perhaps you could be a bit less selfish & think about helping him to handle his life??

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Mon 31-Oct-16 11:51:51

What's that saying ' kids need a hug the most when they deserve it the least?'

Have you had family therapy?

GoldenYorkies Mon 31-Oct-16 11:52:26

I have a similar 11 yr old. Working together with the school is a good option, they could help get him a counsellor or someone to talk to, see what's troubling him

LockwoodJ Mon 31-Oct-16 11:53:50

Selfish? He broke my cheek bone. He needs to stop being selfish. Running away with his little mates at 3 am, so I'm being physically sick from worry? The police finally find him and he gets home and starts shouting abuse. Yet I'm the selfish one? I've done everything I can for him.

Maudlinmaud Mon 31-Oct-16 11:54:11

See your gp and get a cahms referral.

Maudlinmaud Mon 31-Oct-16 11:56:17

Yes op it is awful what he has done to you, no doubt. But you are his mother therefore it is your role to help and support him.

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