Hi, I'm calling on those of you in the know because I've done a search on my ex's behaviour pattern and I'm not finding one.
If I criticise the way he talks to his daughter he returns with 'so you think I'm a bad parent?'
If I get mad because he hid an important piece of financial information he comes back with 'so you think I'm a failure?'
If I point out that he's lost the last three jobs he had because he went off sick for 30% of the time he comes back with 'thanks for spitting in my face'
The real reason for this post is because we split up nearly two years ago and all this time I have walked on eggshells with him just to maintain a civil relationship for my daughter's sake. She spends 4 nights with him and then 4 nights with me.
Every single time I am near him either to collect my daughter or to spend time with her whilst she is in his care I have to play dumb. It winds him up. He doesn't like me to purse my lips and look away. He gets annoyed that I don't like something he's said or done. He pretty much wants me to blow up so that he can justify a hot reaction.
Today I texted him to tell him he needs to sort himself out and until then my daughter stays with me. He does this weird magic charm thing? Sending me pictures of her toys asking my opinion on whether to keep them or sell them? Completely ignoring the ultimatum I just gave him. He's all smiley faces and 'welcome over!'
I'm not sure I wrote this right... basically we had a heated row for the first time in ages where I got fed up of walking on his eggshells and all of a sudden he's giving up my daughter to me and acting as though we've not had a cross word with each other.... what?
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Please Identify This Behaviour Pattern
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JugularChobbler · 30/10/2016 21:03
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