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What would you have done?

(6 Posts)
MopedManiac Sun 30-Oct-16 19:37:46

So tonight DH had some new food he is totally over the moon for - kimchi. It's a Korean pickled cabbage dish with chilli etc. I had made a nice roast pork etc and he decided to have some on the side. hmm but fine with me - whatever... He offered me some and I declined politely. I was looking fwd to my roast just as it was. He got more insistent "go on. It's soon good" - still polite. I continued to politely decline. Then he brings out that he just wants to share something he enjoys with his wife and I'm on some kind of power trip! I just didn't want any of the fucking stuff - I've tried it before (slightly different version) and don't like it. I can barely stand the smell of it in the house but put up because he enjoys it so much.

Apparently I have also taught our Dd to do this same "power trip" when deciding she doesn't like something.

Should I have just tried the bloody stuff in the first place just to keep the peace?

Pallisers Sun 30-Oct-16 19:39:27

So it is a power trip if you refuse a food you know you don't like but not a power trip when he insists you eat a food you know you don't like. Interesting that.

Interesting that he also finds his daughter seems to have the same irrational power trip thing (also known as making her own decisions about what she likes and doesn't like).

RiceCrispieTreats Sun 30-Oct-16 19:45:39

Power trip?

What a weird leap to make. Says a lot about what motivates him.

No, you weren't wrong : you are the only person who gets to decide what you eat.

sweetstemcauli Sun 30-Oct-16 19:46:10

IME ignore eating fads and they will give up, and don't worry, DH will get sick of it very soon, if only because of the wind.

MopedManiac Sun 30-Oct-16 19:46:54

Thank you Palliser - exactly what I was feeling. Instead I got really cross and we ended up in a row. Wish now I could have stated that calmly...

MopedManiac Sun 30-Oct-16 19:57:33

Unfortunately sweetstemcauli there is no sign of him giving it up. And he blames the wind on gluten...

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