So my partner has been out all day, came home drunk, all is well, we were cuddling and he got his phone out and it opened on a message thread to his ex, I didn't see anything that was written and wasn't snooping but it was right in front of my face so couldn't help but see, it was obviously just a general chat due to the length of the messages and I saw a haha and a lol in there too.
I was surprised because As far as I knew he didn't have any contact with her so it was a shock to see that they were obviously in contact for no reason other than being mates
Now I don't really believe in staying friends with exes and I know for a fact if I were doing the same with my ex my current partner wouldn't like it, but that's by the by
I said 'oh do you text your x often?' He said a bit yer I asked in what context and he said just general chat. They have no kids or mortgage together or anything so is no need for them to stay in touch
I didn't say anything after this and a few minutes later he brought up that it obviously bothered me and I I said yes I thought it was weird and didn't understand it, I said the thought of him just deciding at some point in the day that he wants to know how his x is is strange to me and makes me feel shit, he said he couldn't even remember what they'd talked about (it was earlier today. ) I said we'll have a look it's right there (I did not request to look at it myself nor would I have done) he said I can't now I've deleted it! I can't believe he did that, I didn't even think there was anything dodgy going on but to immediately delete it when I asked him about it is really dodgy right?!
I feel sick, he's fallen asleep downstairs and I just feel sick and upset and I can't sleep
I really want someone to tell me that deleting it isn't dodgy but how can it not be?
I'm aware that there will be people who think it's normal to be friends with their ex and I'm not saying that's wrong, but it's always seemed weird to me, please be gentle with me I feel like I'm having a panic attack my anxiety has been really bad the past few weeks, I just need to get it out to someone and maybe get a few kind words, I can't bare to go to sleep on an argument and the fact he's just casually dropped to sleep when I feel like this makes me feel so much worse!
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Toomuchbooty · 29/10/2016 23:53
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