My dad has been a boozer for most of his life. However, my step-mum left him almost two years ago (due to his drinking) and he's spiralled to the point where we are now.
At the end of the summer I had to stage something of an intervention: taking him to docs after dramatic weight loss and he was yellowing. He voluntarily signed up for help and we've been intermittently been seeing alcohol counsellors for about 6 weeks? It's been stop/start due to them allocating us a key worker and then her going on holiday. And my dad has nose-dived.
He's now stopped eating almost entirely. Drinking A LOT (beer, cider, neat vodka) and I found out today that he's vomiting blood most mornings (my 17 y/old half brother stayed with him for a few days at a holiday house in Cornwall). He's stopped washing and stinks of piss. He's also very yellow again.
He says he wants to get better but having spent this afternoon on the phone to 111 and speaking to him, he's said flat out that he won't go to hospital. 111 wanted to send an ambulance but he's refused. I also said I'd drive down (he's 45 mins from me) but he said he'd 'run away' so I couldn't find him.
I'm at a complete loss about what the fuck to do with him. He's going to die, soon, but I cannot do a thing. We're meant to be having an assessment on Tues for his detox place but I am now worried that's in jeopardy.
I have two DSs who are 3 & 5 and have said from the start that they will always come first. He split with my mum when I was six and has been a pretty shite dad my whole life if I'm honest. So this is all very hard when you factor in the relative non-relationship we've had for years.
He's such a selfish bastard I feel so angry. But I also don't want him to die. Not least because I feel like his family hold me responsible for him (I live closest to him).
HELP!
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Alcoholic father - can anyone offer some advice?
LittleMilla · 29/10/2016 21:28
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