I've just had an altercation with my ex partner (dad of kids).
We have just separated a few months ago and everything is messy. He doesn't have a home and blames me for not having any money. He says he will see kids in our RENTED family home that I now live in. He moved out about 2+ months ago. He's living with his new girlfriend.
I don't want him to be in my house. One friend and also he said that he needs to see the kids in my house because he doesn't have anywhere else to go. He wants to see them every other weekend.
Everything is just a mess. I haven't found a job after being out of it for ages.
I can't commubicate with him. It's too hard. Can't afford mediator. I can't find a job. I've applied for benefits but still completely skint. Car has no MOT etc.
He's said because I'm not sitting down and speaking to him they he won't pay any extras like gas and bills until I get a job.
Came to a head as he refused to leave my house when talking to him wasn't working. I wanted him to leave and he just refused and refused for about 40 minutes. I just wanted him to leave. And now I feel stupi for not being able to sit down and talk to him about days he can see kids but I just can't. There's too much emotional and bitterness. And I don't feel he will be fair at all. He thinks he's being really kind and generous go of maintenance. I had to called 101 as k just WANTWD HIM TK LEAVE.
He was acting alll macho and No. I'll leave when I'm ready. I helped you with rent last month so j deserve to be here. I'm not leaving u too we sort this out. Just digging his heels in and i was getting getting more and more worked up. He was winding me up on purpose. I didn't shout or swear ot anything . Neither did he.
But I feel so alone and lost and confused.
I want to throw all his clothes and electronics and rubbish out but I'm trying to be bigger person.
I feel so lost and sad and keep crying.
I want to try as make things good for kids but it's not working. He spent a lot of afternoon at my house so obviously I wasn't able to do work applications as kids were coming to me and they were making noise rtc and I am so so so so sad.
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RebelSoldier · 29/10/2016 17:48
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