Right, firstly I have read your linked thread! I am not going to judge you on it, I am instead going to offer practical advice.
- Buy these, they should stay above your toilet at all times.
m.boots.com/h5/cat_hub?unCountry=uk&path=%2Fen%2FBoots-Deg-Fragrant-Disposal-Bag_984679%2F&
When you have your period, wrap every individual used sanitary towel in one of the bags and put it in the bin. My son is on the spectrum, at high functioning autism/ aspergers level. The smell would overpower him, as you have aspergers there is a very good chance that your son is on the spectrum too. This could help solve any sensory issues that may arise. I would actually have two bathroom bins, a closed lid bin and an open bin for your son to use. You need only use the closed lid bin during your period or if your partner is disposing of condoms
- Employ a cleaner, even if just for a couple of thorough house cleans.
- Contact your local sure start centre and ask for a place on their next parenting course. This link should help;
www.gov.uk/find-sure-start-childrens-centre
- Take a first aid course, take an adult course and a child course. You should be able to find one locally.
www.redcrossfirstaidtraining.co.uk/Courses.aspx?utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=First%20Aid%20General%20Courses%7CSearch%7CGBR&utm_term=first%20aid%20course&utm_content=First%20Aid%20General%20Courses&gclid=CPGzh63C-s8CFeVTcgodN5YOpw&gclchildren
www.sja.org.uk/sja/training-courses.aspx
- Contact your local national autistic society, (in fact there is a great group for adults on the spectrum and families with autistic children on Facebook. Pm me if you are interested as they may have advice that I don't, there are many parents who are on the spectrum there. This is not linked to thevNAS but may actually be a better place to start) The court cannot use your autism as a means to stop you being a parent, not if you prove that you are willing to do anything it takes to make sure your child is safe!
www.autism.org.uk
Look online to see if there is an advocacy service near you, it really sounds like you need someone who can help you to communicate with social services/ your lawyer.This is really important, your exh is taking advantage of your vulnerability and using your disability against you.
www.seap.org.uk/im-looking-for-help-or-support/what-is-advocacy.html
- Look for some sort of health and safety course,
www.childcare.co.uk/information/health-and-safety
OK so you were not able to see the possible risks of the broken glass, you can't help that. That is very much a common issue with people on the spectrum. So be proactive, contact the fire service and ask for a home safety check. And check this link out:
www.capt.org.uk/what-we-do
Your ex will use the complaints in court, so admit you were wrong, prove that you are working hard by doing all of the above. Don't focus on who is wrong, focus on proving that you are a competent and loving Mother. Ask your dp to help, if you have to have a regular cleaner come in! Take a food hygiene course;
www.highspeedtraining.co.uk/food-hygiene/?utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=HST-100-Food%20Hygiene-Generic-Exact&utm_term=food%20%26%20hygiene%20courses&utm_content=food%20%26%20hygiene%20courses
Show through your actions that you are prepared to do anything and everything to protect your son and to prove you are a competent parent! Your exh will eventually show his true colours, especially when his carefully planned complaints fall through. Don't even think about your ex husband and don't try to have your son prove his love for you. He may feel safer with your husband because he has routine and familiarity there. That doesn't mean that you can't provide that for him! He needs his Mother, even if he isn't showing it right now!