So my lovely six date friendship appears to be on rocky ground and I thought it was fine.
Felt ill on the last date but didn't want to burden him with it. Told him later that I'd experienced an intolerance to a food and ended up in A&E. After the weekend was very surprised not to have even received a 'how are you message.' He was at work but able to text etc. I did send a general message asking was everything okay, bad vibes.
Hours later on his way home from work I receive the following - "I like you very much and I've always enjoyed the time we've spent together, but I'm not sure where I see things going in the long term and I don't want to lead you on only to let you down later."
Fair enough, but it's a bit ambiguous - he isn't sure? Or is this a goodbye wrapped up in nice clothing? And anyway, when was he going to mention it? Nice to receive such on screen, isn't it... My reply was to ask whether he'd made his mind up and was it worth discussing in person because I thought that was the decent thing to do.
Yes, he said he was open to discussion and hadn't made his mind up. I suggested he think about this and make an arrangement with me at some point... Thing is, how long is reasonable to wait. It's a killer. This man is kind, polite, gentlemanly, gave no impression he wasn't happy (which he clearly isn't)... Is it a fob off, as in he'll disappear off my planet or do I leave it a week, take bull by horns with little expectation and ask for clarity?
I'm not at that point yet, don't wish to be publically humiliated but what would you all do? Leave it with no expectation, start all over again although you do want clarity or ask for a meet at some point next week?
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Reasonable time to think?
happyinherts · 26/10/2016 11:45
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