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Urghhhhhhh....can't sleep.

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Humblebee1 Wed 26-Oct-16 01:13:58

I am suffering from ltb limbo.
(He cheated -online dating which progressed to in the flesh. I'm pregnant. He's currently out of the house, I told him to get out although it is technically his house. I am sahm and therefore unable to get any kind of job until after baby arrives so at the momment financially dependent on him.)

I feel torn apart about how I am being manipulated by my circumstances and feel he thinks I'll just come round in time, whilst he buries his head in the sand about what I'm going through. 'Sorry, i didnt want us to split up, didn't mean to hurt you, i regret everything, if i could turn back clock......' , just doesn't cut it. Also it grates that he will put my feelings down to hormones and so is generally not taking serious responsibility for the pain he has caused. Frustration makes me angry, and in turn it is preventing me getting the true story. Since I still don't think he's told me the whole cheating thing, we are definitely over, since we can't move onto a new rebuilding effort until then. Anyway, very probably even when I do feel he has spilled everything out I'll not be able to be happy with him ever again. Sorry if this is a ramble, am exhausted, yet wide eyed awake. Sorry, five months on and still in shock really that this is my life. Just can't sleep.

Kateallison16 Wed 26-Oct-16 01:23:08

Well he sounds like a prick. Right choice made OP.
He cheated on you, that's not fucking hormones is it. Sounds like scum.

talesofthevillage Wed 26-Oct-16 01:28:13

I'm so sorry. Can't sleep either and similar experience. Think about what you want. Do not let him manipulate you or blameshift. If he has not told you the truth he is still holding secrets. Someone told me it has to be full disclosure, full remorse.

Humblebee1 Wed 26-Oct-16 01:33:36

Your right Kate, I know, its so frustrating he can use the circumstances as a means of justifying his evasiveness generally.

JoJoSM2 Wed 26-Oct-16 01:35:26

What a nightmare... Could you speak to the council - to get some accommodation and benefits etc? It seems beyond horrendous to have to carry on living there for quite a lot longer sad

Humblebee1 Wed 26-Oct-16 01:37:00

I get that talesofthevillage. Its how I'm feeling. I can't see how it will progress with a newborn either.
Sorry you can't sleep. Anything bothering you?

Humblebee1 Wed 26-Oct-16 01:41:28

Well, obviously your world has been turned upside down as well, but how are you coping talesofthevillage?

Humblebee1 Wed 26-Oct-16 01:44:54

Jojo, I wish it were that simple, but I can't bring myself to disrupt my other DC at this time from the familiarity of her home. There is going to be enough imminent changes.
We havnt discussed further, he thinks we still have futureconfused

Nellynobbler Wed 26-Oct-16 02:25:37

Well I can't sleep either & I did ltb......

Humblebee1 Wed 26-Oct-16 12:45:52

Having met the person on an online date site, and admitting to texting upto twice a week for four months so he says, how likely is it they met in the flesh just once? He was working away from home and she lived nearby.

talesofthevillage Wed 26-Oct-16 20:29:56

OP, the generally held opinion is that they all say 'just once' . And they always minimise what they've done. And only admit to the bare minimum.

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